After I was told I had cancer in not one, but both breasts — they were having a two-for-one special at the Dana-Farber — I had them removed and replaced by silicon Hollywood quality implants. I stopped short of adding the fake nipples. Previous surgeries had left me with no naval, so now lacking both naval and nipples, I think maybe I’m an alien walking the earth.
I have a tee-shirt that says “Yes, they are FAKE. My real ones tried to kill me.” It makes people laugh. It’s the high point of my cancer experience.
Unfortunately, cancer tends to enter your life and like a guest that long over-stays his or her welcome, you just can’t get rid of it. After I gave up my Medigap policy and signed on with Fallon Senior Medicare Advantage plan, it took me five months to get an appointment with an oncologist. It began last November and isn’t over yet.
To get started on the wrong foot, the customer service person who signed me up in the beginning gave me incorrect information, having assured me Dana-Farber in Milford was covered by Fallon. This turned out to be untrue and left me without an oncologist. I was annoyed, but they said I could see my Dana-Farber oncologist once more and I figured I’d get a referral from him.
My oncologist didn’t know anyone at UMass in Worcester which is Fallon’s only cancer care facility in Worcester County. I remained calm. I’m past surgery and chemo, in the maintenance phase of care, the part where they do their best to ignore you. Failing that, they do the least they can. Unless you obviously grow a new cancer in a location they can see and feel, they tell you you’re fine. Not to worry. Smile. It’s just cancer.
At Dana-Farber, I had been going for quarterly check-ups, feeling for lumps, taking blood, checking for weird symptoms that could indicate something growing somewhere it shouldn’t. Annually they run a scan to take a look around the property, aka my body. I’d had to go to war for the scan. Their plan was to do nothing at all unless I had symptoms. Does death count? I felt their plan was insufficient while they felt running a scan was a frivolous waste of taxpayer’s money. My life didn’t come into the equation.
My former oncologist couldn’t help me find a new doctor. He suggested I call the HMO and ask them to refer me to a medical oncologist with a speciality in breast cancer. I knew my PCP wouldn’t be able to refer me because she had already said so. She had suggested I get the referral from my oncologist. Full circle.
I called Fallon Senior Heath Plan.
The customer service rep sounded about 12-years-old, but knew even less than her years suggested. She didn’t understand the concept of different kinds of oncologists. After explaining for perhaps the dozenth time, I began to sink into the slough of despond. It was like talking to a smiling plastic doll who will recite one of 3 pre-recorded phrases. Pull the string, get an answer.
I got transferred to a supervisor and retold the story. She said she would “research the problem” and get back to me. Research the problem? Sounded like a kiss-off to me.
I called my doctor’s office, explained I hadn’t been able to get a referral from my oncologist or from Fallon where they kept saying my family doctor should send me to the right doctor even though I told them Dr. S. didn’t know the doctors in oncology at UMass, Worcester.
HELP, I said. Please!
I did my little song and dance, explaining I needed a Medical Oncologist with a specialty in Breast Cancer. Since breast cancer is frightfully common, it shouldn’t be that hard to find someone.
A few hours later, my doctor’s office called back, gave me a name, an appointment, a phone number. The appointment was for a few days hence, also my birthday. I didn’t want an oncology appointment on my birthday. Nor did I need an appointment immediately. I had just had my annual scan. So I called the doctor’s number to change the appointment to something more sensible.
I got transferred, transferred, and wound up talking to Lisa, the administrator for the Breast Care department. The doctor with whom I’d was booked is a surgeon and they need my medical records before they can continue. The records are all over the Commonwealth, scattered between 4 hospitals.
Lisa said not to worry, she would take care of it. She did. She changed the appointment, booked me with an appropriate doctor, called the various offices and ordered my records. Said if I had any kind of problem, give her a call and she’d fix it because women with cancer shouldn’t have additional problems because they already had quite enough. My feeling precisely!
Shortly thereafter, my doctor’s assistant called asking why I’d cancelled the appointment she had made for me. She was furious. After all the effort she’d made making that phone call on my behalf, I’d had the gall to CANCEL the appointment. I explained she’d booked me with a surgeon — pointless since I’ve already been thoroughly surged. I needed a different doctor.
She was pissed because it hadn’t been easy to get that wrong appointment and seemed unable to grasp the difference between a medical oncologist and a surgeon. I explained — again — that a surgeon would not be able to help me because I don’t need breast surgery. I have no breasts. But I do need my medical records sent to UMass. She said Lisa from UMass had called about it but she wasn’t sure where to send them.
“Did Lisa tell you where to send them?” I asked.
“Yes,” she said.
“Then … why don’t you send them there?” Duh.
“But you cancelled the appointment I made!” she whined, still pissed off.
“I changed the appointment. To be accurate, Lisa changed it because the doctor to which you were sending me was the wrong doctor. NOW I have an appointment with the right doctor.” We went back and forth for a while until she grudgingly accepted my apology for not needing a breast surgeon. I assured her that I truly appreciated her futile efforts.
“I’m so sorry to upset you,” I repeated.
Yesterday I got a note in the mail (not email, the regular mail) from UMass cancelling my appointment with the oncologist and suggesting I call to make a new one.
Maybe I don’t really need an oncologist. Dying is easy; comedy is hard.
In 2010, I discovered I had cancer in both breasts. Two tumors, unrelated to each other. Just twice lucky. They removed the tumors and the associated breasts, gave me very attractive fake replacements — much perkier than the old ones in an artificial implant sort of way. I actually have a little ID card for my breasts, like they have their own personae. Maybe they do. Thus, a little more than two years after the siege began, I’m almost me again. Almost but not quite.
My mother died of metastasized breast cancer. My brother died of pancreatic cancer about 5 years ago, having never gotten as old as I am now. This is not a reassuring family history.
All chronic illnesses make you paranoid. The thing that’s so insidious about cancer is its absence of symptoms. The possibility that it’s growing somewhere in your body and you won’t know it’s there until it’s too late to do anything about it is about as scary as disease gets. Nor is it a baseless fear. I had no idea I had cancer, much less in both breasts, until it was diagnosed twice during a two-week period. One diagnosis of cancer is hard to handle. A second diagnoses a week later is like getting whacked over the head with a bat. It leaves you stunned, scrambling to find someplace to stand where the earth isn’t falling out from under you.
I don’t think most of us are afraid of dying per se. We are afraid of the journey we will have taken to get there. We’re afraid of pain, suffering, the humiliation of dependence and gradual loss of control of our own bodies. After having one or more close encounters with the dark angel, no one is eager to feel the brush of those wings again.
We are called survivors, which means that we aren’t dead yet. The term is meaningless. Put into perspective, we are all survivors. Anyone could be felled by a heart attack or run over by an out-of-control beer truck tomorrow. The end of the road is identical for all living creatures; it’s only a matter of when it will be and what cause will be assigned. Everyone is in the same boat. If you’ve been very sick, you are more aware of your mortality than those who who’ve been blessed with uneventful health, but no one gets a free pass. The odds of death are 100% for everyone.
Recovering from serious illness is a bumpy road. Each of us has a particular “thing” we find especially bothersome. For me, it’s dealing with well-wishers who ask “How are you?” If they wanted an answer, it might not be so aggravating, but they don’t want to hear about my health or my feelings about my health — which are often as much an issue as anything else. They are simply being polite. So, I give them what they want. I smile brightly and say “Just fine thank you.”
I have no idea how I am. All I know — and all I can possibly know — is that for the time being, I am here. To the best of my knowledge, nothing is growing anywhere it’s not supposed to be. Two years after a double mastectomy, I cannot be considered cancer-free … and really, if you’ve had cancer, you are in remission and that’s as good as it gets. So the answer for those of us who have had cancer, heart attacks and other potentially lethal and chronic ailments is “So far, so good.”
That is not what folks want to hear. People want you to be positive and upbeat. You cannot suffer physical or mental discomfort. Why not? Because if you aren’t fine, maybe they aren’t either. They have a bizarre and annoying need for you to be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed no matter how you actually feel.
As I enter this New Year, I’m glad to be alive. With a little bit of luck, I’ll continue to remain that way. God willing and assuming life stays more or less on an even keel, I’ll be here in the cyber world, writing my little stories, taking pretty pictures of waterfalls and sunrises and you’ll still come and visit me from time to time.
Welcome to survivorship. It’s imperfect, but it beats the hell out the alternative.
“Well, in our country,” said Alice, still panting a little, “you’d generally get to somewhere else — if you run very fast for a long time, as we’ve been doing.”
“A slow sort of country!” said the Queen. “Now, here, you see, it takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place. If you want to get somewhere else, you must run at least twice as fast as that!”
I know I’m retired, but where is my spare time? How did I ever find time to work?
Today marks the 2nd anniversary of my double mastectomy. Like someone falling from atop a very tall building who hasn’t yet hit the ground, I say “So far, so good.” Supposedly, if you survive for five years, you are reasonably likely to survive for five more. That makes me 40% of the way towards being half-way likely to have a normal lifespan. Unless something else gets me. Just because you’ve had breast cancer doesn’t mean you aren’t going to get another kind of cancer or die of a heart attack. My first husband survived kidney cancer only to die of heart disease. Some people are just lucky.
I feel fine, or as fine as my advancing arthritis and other assorted ills allow. I also felt fine when I had cancer in both breasts, so feeling fine could easily mean that whatever is killing me, I don’t know about it. Yet. One of the reasons cancer is so dreaded is its lack of early warnings. By the time you have symptoms, it’s too late. I had a double mastectomy so I’m unlikely to get breast cancer again. I don’t have breasts. If I get something, it will be fought on a different battlefield, like my lungs, stomach or pancreas.
I come from a cancer-riddled branch of the family tree. My brother died of pancreatic cancer five years ago. He was younger than I am now. My mother, at my age, was on round three having already lost both breasts in previous bouts and in that final dance, the cancer had migrated to anywhere her lymphatic system could carry mutated cells. A few years later, she was gone. I look in the mirror; it’s eerie how much I look like her.
I don’t usually dwell on my odds of living to a ripe old age. It’s pointless. Statistics are based on a lot of people who aren’t you, don’t have your history. That’s why you’ll never get an oncologist to give you an answer to the question “What are my odds of beating this?” They don’t know. They can quote statistics, but they know better than anyone how meaningless statistics are.
Despite the dice being heavily loaded in favor of cancer winning the final round, cancer hospitals do virtually no screening for early detection. They won’t do anything unless you make so much noise you manage to overcome their protocol. ALL protocols are based on statistical formulae. Every hospital has its own protocol. Some perform a few routine tests, but many, including Dana-Farber, do not. Whatever the protocol in place for your institution, every oncologist based there will follow it with religious ferocity, regardless of how absurd it may be for you.
The day you are diagnosed with cancer, you enter a tunnel. You have no choice about where you’re going or how you will get there. You will just do what you are told until you are “in remission” or dead. Cancer patients aren’t people. We are “cases.” Maybe that’s how oncologists cope with their jobs. It can’t be easy. Regardless of your medical history, they will doggedly follow the protocol and will not deviate. At least not without one hell of a fight.
Dana-Farber is a fine institution, but they have a protocol that says screening is a waste of money, so you wait until you feel a lump or have symptoms indicating something is wrong. I passionately disagree with this approach. It’s stupid. Getting my doctor to deviate from it (which I did, but not easily) was ridiculously hard. I succeeded by becoming such a nuisance it was easier to give me what I wanted (a chest CT) than keep fighting. I have been sick a lot and know that passivity can be a death sentence. If you want to live, you have to step outside the natural tendency to assume that your doctor always knows best and recognize that you’ve lived in this body a long time and know it better than any doctor possibly could. That many doctors refuse to recognize that patients know what they are feeling and know when something is “off” is infuriating and dangerous. I’d like to say that they dismiss women more than men, but I don’t think that’s true anymore. It was, but now they treat everyone as if they are stupid. Equality has been achieved.
Call me crazy, but isn’t early detection the gold standard in cancer care? Without screening, how early are you going to detect anything? Just a question for you medical types out there.
In theory, I have a good chance of never getting this cancer again. It was caught while both tumors were small. Both were a type of cancer (but not the same type) that are slow-growing and not very aggressive. As far as anyone was able to test, there was no sign of it having spread anywhere and the surgeon, who is very good, left wide, clean margins. Margins are very important in cancer surgery. You get to learn all about this while being treated. But, as one cheery oncologist so aptly put it: “It just takes a single stray cell.” He smiled. This is what passes for a joke in the cancer business.
I heave a great sigh. I can’t pretend it doesn’t bother me. Of course it bothers me. I’m not stupid. My mother died of breast cancer and my brother of pancreatic. Both maternal grandparents died of cancer too. It doesn’t take a genius to recognize a pattern. Survivor means you aren’t dead yet. Like being an alcoholic, even if you’ve been on the wagon for decades, you aren’t cured … you’re just in remission.
Last March, just as I was about to turn 65, I went for my quarterly dose of terror. All went as expected and Garry and I were in the car on the way home when my cell phone rang. It was my oncologist.
“You have to come back.”
“We need to rerun your blood tests.” I hate blood tests. I have no veins.
“Can I come tomorrow? We’re half way home …”
“No, come now. Just turn around and come back.”
That is not what you want to hear from your oncologist. Just having an oncologist is bad enough, but hearing him say your blood test needs to be redone is stomach churning.
Back we went. Zip, zap, zing. Before I could say “Hey, wait a minute,” I was in the emergency room, on a gurney and in a room hooked up to intravenous drips and who-knows-what-else. I had no idea what was going on. As far as I could tell, I was fine. My blood test results disagreed with my assessment and had triggered the alarm to my medical team. It was March 8th, three days before my birthday. The last place on earth I wanted to be was in hospital with tubes everywhere.
If any of you have watched Woody Allen movies, you may recall that he’s always convinced he has a brain tumor but no one ever takes him seriously. I am the antithesis of Woody. I think I’m fine. Everyone else is getting hysterical. It turned out the doctors really were convinced I had a brain tumor even though I had no symptoms of a brain tumor, other than being a nut case, but that was not news. Physically, I felt better than usual. Any symptom I had was part of a known problem already being treated or was being ignored because it’s untreatable.
Cutting a long story short, I had very low blood sodium levels. So low that the medical team was surprised I wasn’t dizzy and falling over. Typically, very low blood sodium is a signal of a tumor, often a very big brain tumor. We had skipped over benign possibilities and gone directly to the scariest possible scenario. At least they were taking me seriously. That’s good, right? Thus began the hunt for my big tumor. I was imaged, probed, poked, and biopsied from top to bottom. I particularly enjoyed the one where I had to drink a lot of barium because believe it or not, it tasted better than the food I’d been getting and was significantly more filling.
Before I escaped, they had run every test they could think of and a few others, too. Nothing. Normal. Clear and clean. The good part of this experience was I got to know what few cancer patients ever know. As far as current medical technology could tell, I had no sign of a tumor anywhere in my body. I hated being in the hospital, but in the end, it was worth it just for the reassurance.
I was very firm about being released before my birthday. I’ve been in one or another hospital for two birthdays and two wedding anniversaries. I didn’t care to spend another milestone in a hospital bed.
I’d have been more sanguine if the food hadn’t been so awful. You would not believe the terrible things a hospital kitchen can do to an innocent chicken. Or worse, a piece of salmon.
When I was having my initial surgery at the Faulkner Hospital in Boston, the food was terrible (of course), but it sounded great. These days, instead of showing up on a pre-arranged schedule with something inedible, you can select something inedible from a beautifully designed and professionally worded menu. In some hospitals, you can call for room service and they’ll feed you any time you want, as long as it’s before the kitchen closes, usually around 6 or 7 in the evening.
My friend Cherrie was staying with me at the hospital. She is the definition of a good friend, the one who cancels her life and sleeps in a hard recliner in your room while you try to come to grips with having been surgically redesigned. This is a digression to my digression.
The menu of the day featured “honey-baked salmon.” I love salmon. Actually, I like most fish, but I particularly like salmon. How bad could it be, right?
Our dinners arrived. I don’t know what she had ordered, but it wasn’t the salmon. I picked up my knife and fork with every intention of cutting off a piece of fish. The salmon fought back. I worked a little harder. Maybe I was weak from surgery and drugs. Finally, I managed to separate a piece of salmon and after some effort, spear it with my fork. I put it in my mouth. It continued to fight, battling each attempt by my incisors to incise. It seemed to grow in my mouth. The more I chewed, the bigger the piece grew. Finally, I swallowed it.
“Cherrie,” I said, ” I can’t eat this.”
“It can’t be that bad,” she said.
“Oh yes it can,” I assured her.
She took a piece, put it in her mouth, attempted some chewing, and spit it out. “What did they do to this? Is this edible? Is this fish? Is this food?” We started to laugh and could not stop. The more we laughed, the funnier it was. The only problem was I was at the post-operative stage when laughing hurts. I was full of tubes, drains and stitches. Nonetheless, laughter felt good. Pain and all.
I could not answer her question. It looked like salmon. Right color and shape, but its appearance was a trick of the light, perhaps done with mirrors. It was really a building material, perhaps a salmon-shaped roofing tile. We stared at it for a while, then shared Cherrie’s dinner. Conclusion: Do not order fish in a hospital. Bring your own food or consider fasting.
End of digression: We now return to our show, already in progress
Probably half a million dollars worth of tests later (don’t knock Medicare; I’d be dead without it), the answer was “idiopathic something or other.” Idiopathic is medical terminology for clueless. I had test results but no discernible cause. Fortunately, they did have a solution despite lacking a diagnosis. I would forever have to limit my intake of “regular” fluids. No plain water, fruit juice, or soda. I can have two cups of coffee (or something else “normal”), but everything else I drink has to be full of electrolytes, in other words, a sports drink. Me and Powerade Zero are now close buddies.
Thus as of last March, I didn’t have cancer and after I started drinking sports drinks, I stopped having foot and leg cramps that had plagued me most of my life. My family doctor thinks I probably always had low sodium levels that were borderline or marginally deficient. When I was tested in March, I had been drinking more than usual because I was chronically slightly dehydrated and was trying (ironic, eh?) to drink more. It was odd being told I to limit my fluid intake. Unless it’s a sports drink. I can have as much of that as I want.
I began drinking electrolytic sports drinks exclusively, other than my morning coffee. You would have to kill me before I would give up morning coffee. It must be accomplishing something because I am not thirsty all the time. Previously, the more I drank, the thirstier I got … so apparently there was something wrong, but no one knows what. Maybe it’s one of those genetic anomalies that seem to run in my family. Fortunately, the solution was simple and I really have learned to be okay with, if not actually like, Powerade Zero. Who’d have thunk it, eh?
Now, it’s October. I have another oncologist appointment coming up right before Thanksgiving. I do not expect to hear anything exciting. In fact, I very much would prefer to limit all medically related excitement for the remainder of my life.
Two years. Life changed a lot, physically and mentally. I hate being told I’m brave and am annoyed by people who think that it’s a blessing to survive something I didn’t think I should have in the first place. I am anti-pink think and still trying to reconcile this body with someone I recognize as me. I often feel as if I have been stuffed, sausage-like, into a casing humorously referred to as my body. I have a lot of negative feelings about my body. My fake breasts and I are not on good terms. They feel like alien invaders. They look fine, but they aren’t me.
I don’t have any wisdom to offer anyone except for one thing: Get the best surgeon for whatever kind of cancer you’ve got, someone with a lot of experience and a superb reputation. Do not go to the most convenient hospital unless it is also the best hospital. That initial surgery is the most important one you’ll ever have and if it isn’t done right, you can’t call for a replay.
I survived because I wanted to live. The alternative was death and I wasn’t ready for that. Surviving — and whatever it is that motivates you — is a very individual and subjective. What helped me were my husband, my best friend, a sense of humor, and reading a lot of escapist fiction. Now, I blog. I take pictures. Photography has been my hobby since I was given my first real camera and I have always been a writer. Blogging gives me freedom to write whatever I want and. It’s nice finally not having a boss telling me what I’m allowed to say.
I will forever feel that today is my real birthday.
Autumn is back. My year has come full circle. Trees are gold and red.
I’m alive. Good enough. Whatever the future holds, I’ll deal with it when it gets here.
Today was beautiful. Bright and shiny as a new penny, the trees are in the first stages of color change, with scarlet and brilliant yellow patches against the dark green of late summer foliage.
I went out to get my annual flu shot that ought to be the “Avoid The Flu” shot. I have begun to always carry my little Canon point and shoot camera in my bag so if something catches my eye, I capture it and take it home with me. I’d prefer using the Olympus, but I don’t feel comfortable just dropping it into my bag. I’m enough of a klutz these days that I’d probably drop it.
Thus the truism: The best camera is the one you have with you. Ironic really. My high quality lens is home and my modest little Canon is taking the pictures. Tomorrow I’ll bring the good camera. Unless it rains.
The color is coming fast now. September is ending. In less than two weeks, we’ll be at the peak of whatever color we’ll get this season. By the end of October, most of the leaves will be stripped off the trees, hip deep in our yard.
That’s the normal cycle in New England, if there is any such thing as “normal” here. If we get a storm with heavy rain, Autumn can wash away in an afternoon. This year, I’m trying to not miss anything. I’ve already missed too much.
My sense of urgency is exacerbated by having been sick and losing years of my life while recuperating. Last time, it was breast cancer. It wasn’t my first fight for life and it obviously won’t be the last. We are all going to die: it’s only a matter of when and from what cause.
Cancer is a game changer. No one gets it and walks away unchanged. It certainly did a number on me.
I don’t like talking about cancer. I hate that I lost both breasts to two simultaneous tumors, one per breast. The odds against that are astronomically huge. It doesn’t happen. One in three million or something like that. But, there is always that “one” and apparently I am she.
I tell folks the Faulkner was having a two-for-one sale on implants and I couldn’t turn down a bargain. But really, I got mentally bludgeoned twice in two weeks. It blew out all my circuitry. As much as surgery weakened and hurt my body, learning I had cancer twice was worse. It damaged my soul and left me in a wilderness that was dark, strange and full of monsters.
Cancer is sinister. There you are feeling okay. You have no symptoms, Nothing is bothering you. Then you discover you not only have cancer, but you have had it for who-knows-how-long. While you were doing your everyday things and time was calmly passing, something was eating you from the inside and you didn’t even know it. How could I not know or even suspect?
It was just this time of year, two years ago. My surgery was two weeks away: October 10, 2010. Both breasts would be gone, replaced by “filler” that in turn would be replaced by silicon implants.
My body took longer to heal than I thought it should. I don’t know why, but for some reason, I didn’t think the surgery would be a big deal. I’d survived so much surgery and nearly died multiple times. I was pretty sure I wasn’t going to die this time, so I figured anything that wasn’t going to kill me couldn’t be serious.
The surgery was nasty, but pain is an old friend and all I had to do was wait it out. The emotional hit was something else. I had lost my breasts which was bad, but I had lost me and that was worse. Whatever that particular thing was that made me, “me” was gone.
I hated the way I felt. I hated being dependent. I wondered why I was alive, except I knew that I had to keep going. If not for my best friend and my husband, I don’t know what would have become of me.
For them, I fought darkness. I couldn’t do it for myself because I had no self, but love is a strange thing. It poked and prodded at me. They were trying so hard for me, I had to try for them. So when I felt I couldn’t breathe, I did anything I could to keep my mind away from the dark places. I read relentlessly. I talked to no one and went nowhere. Healing for me is very private. Sleep was dangerous because bizarre images left me with a head full of twisted images, which, it turned out, were the result of the medication they were feeding me.
I hated my body. It hurt. Everywhere. The drugs that were supposed to prevent a recurrence left me in constant pain, bloated and looking like a parody of the Pillsbury dough boy. My fake breasts look normal to the world, but they feel alien to me.
Then it was autumn. Again. For a full year, I had not left the house except to go to a doctor or hospital. The lure of the autumn reached me … the changing light and bright leaves made me restless. I listened to the wind and went out to play.
I was better. My good days were as common as bad ones and I was not so sad. I wanted to see friends. I bought a new camera and started to shoot, learn new techniques. I began to write again. I was back. It wasn’t the old me, but it was someone I recognized.
I’m not the person I was before. Serious illness, lethal illness, changes you. I’ve fought my way back again. I’ve lost body parts and the damage to my self-image seems to be permanent. But who knows? Time changes everything. It’s slow and relentless. Incremental little alterations that carve a canyon where once a mountain stood.
Please don’t tell me I am lucky or brave. If I were lucky I would not have gotten cancer. Survival is an instinct, not valor. No pink ribbons either. The whole “put on a happy face, cancer doesn’t bother us” is bullshit. If you aren’t bothered by cancer, you have some serious psychological issues you need to address. Pronto. Or you are getting better medication than I am.
Today, blogging is my drug of choice. I write about whatever I feel like writing about. I spent a lot of years following instructions. Now I do it for fun.
Another year has rolled around. My New Year begins with the full moon tomorrow. Autumn is back. The circle is complete. Trees are gold and red and I’m alive. These days, that’s good enough.