Weekly Photo Challenge: Companionable – Like Bookends

We met in college. 1964. I was 17, he was 22 and recently out of the Marines. The college radio station was a great place to make friends, a great place to form relationships.

Photo: Debbie Stone
Photo: Debbie Stone

We worked together, played together, dreamed together, drank together. And then many of us married each other and though not every marriage lasted forever, the underlying friendships never ended. It is the only group I know where even the couples who divorced remained friends. Perhaps, in the end, friendship is a better platform for marriage than love alone.

Photo: Debbie Stone
Photo: Debbie Stone

Lovers come and go, but a true friend is forever. When your lover is your friend, that’s the total package.

I married my friend. My lover. My confidante. With whom I argue, laugh, cry and share a life. We got lucky: we won the lottery — the whole package. It’s 49 years later and here we are. Together.


Author: Marilyn Armstrong

Writer, photography, blogger. Previously, technical writer. I am retired and delighted to be so. May I live long and write frequently.

25 thoughts on “Weekly Photo Challenge: Companionable – Like Bookends”

    1. I’m really amazed at how long we’ve known each other … and how, after so many years, we like each other more than ever. We may not burn as hot, but I think we are closer than we’ve ever been. It makes life worth living.


        1. In the midst of all the sturm und drang of life, it’s easy to miss the good stuff. Bad stuff whacks you on the head, but the good stuff sneaks up quietly and gives you a hug 🙂


    1. Thanks! Sometimes we outgrow a relationship. It was right when we formed it, but 15 years later, it no longer fits the person we’ve become … or our mate has become. That’s what happened between my first husband and I. It wasn’t fair, he thought, because he had not changed. Which was the problem. I had. But we never stopped liking each other, or caring about and for one another. I think if you marry someone who isn’t a complete dirtbag or criminal, there’s no sense in throwing away the friendship because the marriage doesn’t work. Relationships are complicated. So are we.

      On Sun, Jun 30, 2013 at 11:35 AM, SERENDIPITY


    1. Garry and I deeply dependent on each other in so many ways, I can’t even imagine living without him. I would be surprised if he didn’t feel the same way about me. We grow closeras the years roll on. It’s good. Warm. Cozy. And scary. Life is frragile.


      1. I feel the same way about you. A very, very lovely post about two interesting people who’ve led interesting lives. I’m a lucky guy to have you.


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