We say stuff because it’s a thing everyone says. I mean, you know, it’s a saying. So we say it. A saying is something to say when you don’t really have anything meaningful or original to say. Sometimes, if you get the right saying, it makes you sound clever and perceptive. Mostly, it makes you sound like you don’t have anything to say. I’m just saying.
Today I would like to analyze Misery Loves Company. This is a truism and a popular saying to which I cannot relate. What, exactly, does it mean? Do any of the following (or perhaps all of the following) apply to you?
— Miserable people like being with other miserable people.
— Miserable people like to make others miserable too.
— Miserable people hate being alone.
— Miserable people like being miserable.
— Misery spurs creativity.
— Miserable people resent it when the people around them are happy.
I don’t like being miserable. When I am unhappy, I don’t want to be around anyone. I hide.
I don’t find unhappiness, depression or any kind of misery inspirational. Quite the opposite. When I’m down, I don’t want to write. I don’t want to take pictures. I don’t feel creative and I don’t much care to share. Since I hate being a drag, I’ll stay away from people and hope they won’t notice or ask questions I don’t want to answer. Being around people who are also miserable makes me even more unhappy, so this whole concept doesn’t work for me. If it’s a truism, for whom is it true?
Are you miserable? Does it make you want to be with other miserable people or spoil others’ happiness? Does it inspire you to write, paint or do anything creative? Just wondering. Because when I’m unhappy or depressed, the only thing I want is to stop feeling that way as quickly as possible. The world is a sad place too much of the time. I’d rather not make it any worse.
- Affirmations for the Miserable (barbbest.com)
- Work Makes People Miserable (blogs.wsj.com)
- Monday Morning Movement Mustn’t Be Miserable (haroldgibbons.com)