Miserable Company

Crown and eagle tunnelWe say stuff because it’s a thing everyone says. I mean, you know, it’s a saying. So we say it. A saying is something to say when you don’t really have anything meaningful or original to say. Sometimes, if you get the right saying, it makes you sound clever and perceptive. Mostly, it makes  you sound like you don’t have anything to say. I’m just saying.

Today I would like to analyze Misery Loves Company. This is a truism and a popular saying to which I cannot relate. What, exactly, does it mean? Do any of the following (or perhaps all of the following) apply to you?

— Miserable people like being with other miserable people.

— Miserable people like to make others miserable too.

— Miserable people hate being alone.

— Miserable people like being miserable.

— Misery spurs creativity.

— Miserable people resent it when the people around them are happy.

I don’t like being miserable. When I am unhappy, I don’t want to be around anyone. I hide.

I don’t find unhappiness, depression or any kind of misery inspirational. Quite the opposite. When I’m down, I don’t want to write. I don’t want to take pictures. I don’t feel creative and I don’t much care to share. Since I hate being a drag, I’ll stay away from people and hope they won’t notice or ask questions I don’t want to answer. Being around people who are also miserable makes me even more unhappy, so this whole concept doesn’t work for me. If it’s a truism, for whom is it true?


Are you miserable? Does it make you want to be with other miserable people or spoil others’ happiness? Does it inspire you to write, paint or do anything creative? Just wondering. Because when I’m unhappy or depressed, the only thing I want is to stop feeling that way as quickly as possible. The world is a sad place too much of the time. I’d rather not make it any worse.

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18 replies

  1. it’s true though … writing works. but not if you’re wallowing … only if it’s heartfelt.
    then … somebody is listening.


    • It has always helped me. When my mother died and I was in Israel and couldn’t get to the funeral, my rabbi said — “You’re a writer. Write.” He was righter than I knew. It didn’t make the pain go away, but it helped me cope.


  2. I know people who live in misery & dwell in it. And – they do LOVE company.
    Thankfully – I no longer have to see that day in & out anymore after a major change in my life.
    Not sure I’ve ever been miserable. I’ve had lows in my life & bad times – but – I wouldn’t say that I became miserable. Because – I always try to deal with it with a smile on my face. Why make others miserable or why bring misery where I go? Well – that’s how I see it.


    • Some people do suffer from genuine depression that’s chemical and won’t be budged by positive thinking. The choice to spread the misery around is a diffferent matter. You can be depressed without making everyone around you miserable too.

      On Thu, Jul 11, 2013 at 11:20 PM, SERENDIPITY


      • That’s true. There are times when nothing seems to help during those times. And- not everyone takes well to meds for that either.
        When I think of misery likes company – I think more of sour, angry with the world, jealous type people – not people who suffer from depression. That’s a whole different category in my mind.


  3. I think it’s a crock. When i’m miserable i hide away from the world, i stop writing, i stop talking, i shut down and just exist, keep trying to exist. I’m not creative, i’m not a useful member of society. If misery loves company it’s no misery i’ve ever known


  4. Hiding from misery inspires me. It is when I fall into the misery that I cease all productive activity.
    Patti (still not a brand name)



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