ADULT VISION – The Daily Post – As a kid, you must have imagined what it was like to be an adult. Now that you’re a grownup (or becoming one), how far off was your idea of adult life?
I don’t think any kid has an accurate idea of what being “grown up” is about.
I imagined it was all about freedom. Finally not having to take orders from parents, teachers, and every other adult in the world.
It turns out that adult bosses were even less fun and everything was ultimately about money. Working for it. Saving it. Using it well. Building a career that would support the life one wanted. So your family can have a home and nice things to go with it.
I rebelled against it, the whole concept … and went off to do my own thing, dragging my son with me. I took a sharp right turn into unexplored territory. And it did indeed give me a great deal of satisfaction, not to mention many experiences that were beyond price. But I still had to work and money was still the bottom line.
Money is the issue, unless you have so much you never have to worry about it — an experience I’ve never had. Money doesn’t buy happiness, but having enough will buy physical comfort, peace of mind, and a good chunk of freedom to do as one pleases.
When I was little, I remember hearing my parents talking in soft voices at night behind their closed door. I wondered what exciting things they were discussing. Would I ever have such adult conversations in my life?
Yup. Because they were usually talking about money. How to earn it, how to spend it. What they needed. What they might be able to afford for themselves, for us. That’s the basic issue of adulthood in this modern world. Maybe it has always been this way as long as there has been such a thing as money.
The freedom I was looking for definitely is part of reaching ones majority … but so are all the responsibilities I never considered. And having to work, even when it isn’t fun and not what you wanted to do. And the worry that goes with it.
Next time around the wheel, I’ll try to get it right and better. I’ll give myself a solid B minus on this round. Probably an overly generous assessment.