“Americans. They think everybody is snowflake. Only one snowflake. Only one you. But in Korea we think like snowball. Everybody snowball.” Yun-ji packed an imaginary snowball in her hands, then lifted it, palms up, as if offering Billie a present. “You see? Snowball.”
Both of them looked at Yun-ji’s hands holding nothing.
“Snowball,” Yun-ji repeated, then looked at Billie, at her unhappy mouth, at her face that looked like it had been bleached, and she pictured that soldier sitting in the tank, listening to head phones, maybe reading a Rolling Stone magazine, then the call coming in over the radio, the hurried attempts to think of an excuse, some reason why he didn’t see two fourteen-year-old girls walking down a deserted country road in South Korea.
“Never mind,” Yun-ji said and dropped her hands.
There are a lot of levels to this book. It’s a book about cultures and differences, but it’s also a book about the similarities that underlay human societies. In the end, our humanity trumps our differences and enables us to reach out to those who seem at first unreachable.
It’s about women and men, their relationships, their failure to communicate. The endless misunderstandings arising from these failed efforts — or failed lack of effort. It’s also about the assumptions we make based on appearance and how terribly wrong are the deductions we make based on what we think we see. And how we use bad information to make our choices. And finally, the pain that results from choices — even when the choices are the best available.
The story takes place in South Korea. Billie, a young American woman, is in the country to teach English to grade school children. She has come there with her friend, lover and partner and shortly realizes she is pregnant. It’s as wrong a time in her life to have a baby as there possibly could be and probably the worst possible place she could be — far away from her home and isolated by distance and culture. The story is told in the first person by Billie as well as two other first person narrators, both south Korean. Yun-ji is a young woman approximately the same age as Billie who also becomes pregnant and a man named Moon who is divorced and suffering through a painful separation from his son.
All the characters deal with problems springing from damaged relationships and miscommunication, misunderstanding, problems with parenting, pregnancy and abortion. Despite cultural differences, in the end the pain is very personal — and remarkable similar — for each. There are no simple, happy answers.
It’s well-written and held my interest from start to finish. Whether or not the book will resonate for you may depend on your age and stage in life’s journey. For me, it was a trip back in time to the bad old days before Roe Vs. Wade made abortion a viable choice. Of course, one of the issues made very clear in the book is that the legality of abortion doesn’t make it less of a gut-wrenching, life-altering decision. Anyone who thinks abortion is the easy way out should read this. Whatever else it is, it’s not easy.
It’s a good book. Strongly written, presenting highly controversial issues in a deeply human context.
The Korean Word for Butterfly is available in paper back and Kindle.
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It sounds interesting. Not sure about the abortion part, that’s something I try to stay away from.
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Not my favorite subject, but that’s what the story is about.
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It’s a hard subject for someone who couldn’t have kids. I am liberal in every meaning of the word, abortion is a decision ONLY a woman can make, not the lawmakers. But I try to stay away from the subject.
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Usually, so do I. I did write one good post about it a couple of years ago I may repost because I think women are getting bashed way too much these days. These self-righteous men should butt OUT. Who the hell do those assholes think they are?
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I agree, it’s my life, my decision. It’s that simple and if you force a woman to keep a baby against her will -because she has to obey a stupid law- then at least make sure that the lawmakers pay for the upbringing of the child.
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The GOP’s political goal seems to be to disenfranchise women completely. Make us all subservient and helpless. Without choices, help, or hope.
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I never understood why any woman would vote for the “Grand old party”. It’s like saying “please take my rights away”. We lived in the South for a few years when we were younger. I shook my head so often, we had to move away, I was afraid I would get brain damage 🙂
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It must be something in the water. Or air. The while “voting against self interest” thing confounds me. I don’t understand it at ALL.
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It’s in the head. Look at all the support Trump is getting and look at the world how they watch us in disbelieve. It’s sad, it’s scary. I feel like we are being thrown back 60 years.
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I think it’s closer to 200 years.
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Greetings 🙂
Great review! Will be adding this to my Goodreads tbr.
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It is a very good book. Not an easy read, but very thought provoking. I’m glad you liked it.
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