BUT THAT WAS LONG AGO

An awful lot of people seem endlessly fascinated by childhood, especially their own childhood. Maybe it was such a wonderful time that they will forever regret leaving it. Maybe it was their best of times. For them, the grown-up world has never been able to compete. Maybe, with the passing years, even if childhood wasn’t all that great, it has achieved a retrospective perfection that was not present during the original experience.

slow children at play

Regardless, it wasn’t the best of times for me. I was glad to get out of it alive. I have never had any interest in revisiting it. At this point, thanks to the passage of time, much of it is a fuzzy around the edges. The earliest memories are just plain fuzzy all the way from beginning to end.

Everyone had a childhood. I think by the time you’re entitled to pensions and senior services, it’s time to move away from the delights of childhood and find something wonderful in the grown up world.

Childhood. It’s where we all come from, but not where we are going. Most of life is spent in some period of adulthood. I prefer it. I also prefer the adult me!

28 thoughts on “BUT THAT WAS LONG AGO”

  1. I believe that, for some of us, childhood was a time where there didn’t seem to be anything to worry about. Everything just sort of fell into place on a daily basis. My first brush with real life came after I began going to school and discovered “Bullies.” Who were these people and why did they have to pick on me?

    Fast forward to the present and we can name any number of things that can destroy your day. Damn right! I miss those days of innocent abandon. Of course this isn’t everyone’s story either.

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    1. Innocent abandon was not really a part of my world. My father was not that protector of the innocent fathers are supposed to be. Bullying at school sucked, but getting beaten up at home was worse. I didn’t have a safe place to be until I married Jeff.

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        1. Our marriage was a “jail break” for both of us. I needed to be out of the control of my father and Jeff desperately needed to NOT live in his parent’s attic and have a life of his own. We did each other a very good turn when we got married. It wasn’t the most romantic relationship, but we took care of each other. I always wonder, had I not left, if the story would have had a better ending for him. Sadly, I didn’t have a crystal ball … and anyway, life was probably as it had to be.

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      1. I LOVE the warning sign. Maybe there’s an invisible person on the other side of the see-saw.
        As for childhood, I like the radio days version.

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  2. I dont miss it at all. I was just glad to get out of it alive and speaking coherently.

    We do survive. That may be it. you learn survival skills that you can use for the rest of your life. And you also learn that (probably) the only voice you can trust is your own, at least for a very long time.

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    1. Some people have better childhoods, some worse. I was in the “worse” group. It wasn’t ALL bad — life is never “all” anything — but it was bad enough. I learned a lot, but I’m not sentimental about it. Just glad I got out of it sane, sort of.

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    2. WOW! I have to consider myself as pretty lucky to have been in the “better childhoods” group. I’m always surprised to find others who don’t/can’t share my experience.

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      1. The rumors about child abuse are not exaggerations and aren’t made up by publicity seekers. It was real and is real … very under-reported and for all the fuss made about it on TV, kids are still pretty much at the mercy of whatever adults are in charge of them.

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  3. Life goes on and dwelling on the old memories is something each of us have, private memories, some good and some not so good and some written on paper and burnt letting the ashes fly away in the wind (Ok, not an original from me, something I found in the Dean Koontz book I am reading at the moment Ashley Bell, but I found it a good way to get rid of the unwanted stuff). I find growing old also has its problems, but the subject “seniorhood” or “the life of a golden oldie” has not yet arrived and no, I am not going to make the suggestion.

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    1. Young people never imagine they will be old. I didn’t. Sometimes, I’m still surprised at that old person in the mirror. But I also am not big on dwelling in the past. I try to make now as good as I can because it’s what we’ve got.

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  4. We forget most of the bad things, maybe not bullying or super embarrassing things. So it seems better than it was.
    We have interns at my company each summer. I was speaking with one of them on Friday and all I could keep thinking was, I’m so glad I don’t have to be 20-something again. I also don’t have to be 10 years old and not understand why I feel awkward and know that everyone else does also.

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  5. The Twilight Zone has an episode called “The Incredible World of Horace Ford” that covers the topic of how we gloss over the troubles of childhood to remember only the wonderful things about it, and does it very well. It’s one of the hour long episodes, so it doesn’t get replayed in reruns a lot, but it’s one of my favorite episodes…

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    1. I’m surprised I don’t remember it because I thought I had seen every single episode every made of Twilight Zone. My favorite has always been the one where the guy survives the apocalypse in a vault … and then breaks his eyeglasses. For anyone who depends on glasses, that’s a genuine nightmare. I think I have Twilight Zone on one of the streaming channels. I’m going to look for the episode. Thanks!

      Drat. They don’t have any of the one hour shows, but it’ll come up somewhere. I’ll keep an eye out for it.

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      1. I know a few years ago every episode of TZ was available to view for free at Hulu, because I caught a few of the ones I’d never seen before. I don’t know if they’re still there and for free. I think the hour long eps were held out of syndication for a long time… Syfy usually only shows them during their holiday marathons…

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        1. There aren’t there at the moment, but that doesn’t mean they won’t be there next week. They change contents frequently and don’t keep stuff as long as Netflix or Amazon. It’ll show up eventually.

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  6. They certainly are slow children. One of them is supposed to be up the other end of the see-saw.

    I have happy childhood memories but I wouldn’t want to go back there. And I’m sure I look at certain things through rose-tinted glasses.

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  7. lol i noticed it too. and have always been amused at the ‘slow children at play” signs…

    I keep drifting back to when I was a kid, and I have very few memories that were consistently good, at least when a parent was involved. Abuse doesnt always come at the end of a birch switch, it can be verbal, emotional, and invisible. I think kids instinctively understand that, that no one is going to believe them and they will get labeled as whiners. No visible scars. And no witnesses.

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    1. Yes, I know what you mean. I really do. Really. Most abusive parents like to mix it up. A little smack here, some verbal and emotional carnage there … keeps the kid on his/her toes. It’s even more emotionally tricky when one parent is abusive and the other isn’t, so there are good relationships in the same family with the really scary awful ones. But if I had to sum it up, it wasn’t a happy time. Constant fear produces a lot of stress. Probably why I was happier at school — bullying and all — than I ever was at home. I wasn’t waiting for the next apocalypse.

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