The Openly Gay Athlete, Rich Paschall, Sunday Night Blog

If you have read any stories about gay athletes in professional sports you would certainly know about it.  That’s because no matter how often it has been stated, any article that mentions a gay athlete will state that he is “gay” or even “openly gay,” as if telling you he is gay is not enough.  I guess if you tell the press you are gay, then you are pretty open about it, and you certainly can’t take it back.  Reporters follow around openly gay athletes just for the purpose of asking them what it is like to be openly gay and play ______ (fill in the sport here).  I wish just once the athlete would respond that it is the same as being “openly heterosexual.”

Perhaps they should ask the reporter what it is like to be “openly heterosexual” and asking the same stupid questions.  Of course, that would be stereotyping sports reporters as straight and we certainly do not want to jump to conclusions.  Maybe someday we will have an openly gay sports reporter, but I digress.

You can point to many sports and talk about the one gay athlete, and it is usually just one brave person who has spoken up.  Michael Sam created such a stir when he was drafted by the St. Louis Rams that an ESPN sports reporter actually reported on his shower habits in the preseason. Seriously, “google” it. It must still be in cyberspace. ESPN later apologized.

Jason Collins was the first openly gay basketball player in the NBA causing big “sports” news, and Brittney Griner is a lesbian professional basketball player.  Griner married another WNBA player in 2015.  All of this means these players will from now on be referred to as that “openly gay player.”

If people think these players are among the first gay players in the sport, they can think again.  Hall of Fame basketball player and current television analyst Charles Barkley was asked by sports host Dan Patrick if he ever played with a gay player and got this surprising response, “Yeah, of course I did. Everybody did. Everybody played with a gay teammate, Dan, and it’s no big deal.”  Maybe it is no big deal to most teammates but it sure seems to be a big deal to reporters.

Soccer has Robbie Rogers of the Los Angeles Galaxy.  Boxing has featherweight Orlando Cruz.  Professional wrestling has Darren Young but I always consider that as acting rather than a sport, and there are plenty of gays in acting. Ice skater Johnny Weir came out in 2011 after indicating for a long time that his sex life was a private matter.  In his case, no one was surprised when he came out.  He has since retired from the sport.

Some well-known athletes in other countries have come out and have not faced the constant barrage of gay questions.  Twenty two year old British diver Tom Daley, well-known to the British public most of his young life, famously came out at the age of 19.  While it caused a bit of stir at first, that a national diving champion came out on You Tube, the press seems to have moved on after a short period of curiosity.  Here they would have hounded the poor boy constantly.

Despite the media circus surrounding gay athletes, the major sports seem to want to prove that they are inclusive and welcoming to gay athletes.  Of course, it is hard to do that when athletes are reluctant to come forward. If everyone has had gay teammates as Charles Barkley suggests, then there must be many who are afraid to say anything, and work to keep their private life completely private.  Such was the case for professional baseball player, Billy Bean.

Major League Baseball, despite its long history, has only had two former players publicly state they are gay.  One was Glenn Burke who died in 1995 and the other is Billy Bean, now 53.  Bean regrets walking away from baseball after a couple of years with the Tigers and Dodgers, a year in Japan, and some time with the Padres, but he was tired of hiding who he was.  It wore him down as he explained in his book, Going the Other Way: Lessons from a Life In and Out of Major League Baseball.  He had no idea how to reach out for help dealing with his secret while he was a player.  He also had no idea that major league baseball would one day reach out to him.

In June of 2014 MLB summoned Bean to a meeting in New York City to ask him about his experiences and to talk about baseball.  Bean went and talked for hours as detailed by sports writer Ken Rosenthal in his FOX Sports column, How Billy Came Back to Baseball.  The sport that had trouble welcoming Jackie Robinson and other black players did not want to be seen as the sport afraid to welcome gay players, so they reached out to Bean.  Billy had, after all, written a book on his experiences and what he learned from them, and was also a speaker to LGBT groups.  In fact, Billy was speaking at a LGBT Sports Summit in Portland, Oregon when he got the call from Major League Baseball.

When Bean learned they had a role for him in baseball he did not seem to immediately embrace the idea.  “I’m not going to be your token gay person that you’re just going to put on a podium,” he kept telling them.  They got it.  Bean said if he had someone to reach out to when he was playing, he might not have quit.  So now, Bean will be that person.  He will be the Ambassador for Inclusion.  To honor the league’s workplace code of conduct, to provide education and outreach, to speak and to listen, Billy Bean will be there because no one was there for him.  If you ask him now, he will probably tell you “It Gets Better.

List of LGBT Sports people, From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Author: Rich Paschall

When the Windows Live Spaces were closed and our sites were sent to Word Press, I thought I might actually write a regular column. A couple years ago I finally decided to try out a weekly entry for a year and published something every Sunday as well as a few other dates. I reached that goal and continued on. I hope you find them interesting. They are my Sunday Night Blog. Thanks to the support of Marilyn Armstrong you may find me from time to time on her blog space, SERENDIPITY. Rich Paschall Education: DePaul University, Northeastern Illinois University Employment: Air freight professional


  1. If it is of any comfort to you, I remember when “JEWISH athlete” or “BLACK athlete” or “JAPANESE athlete” were also a big deal. Well Jewish still is. Except for swimmers and the occasional tennis player, sports are not our thing, though it’s not as rare as it was when I was growing up. Imagine the conversation: “Ma, I’m going to be a baseball player.”

    “OY a baseball player, what will the family say?” It wasn’t just the world. It was MOM.

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    1. A lot of athletes can hide their backgrounds, others can not for obvious reasons. Many gay athletes choose to hide their lives from the public.
      Billy Bean hid the fact he was gay and it drove him from baseball.
      By the way, there have now been many great Jewish baseball players. Sandy Koufax was one of my favorites as a kid. Now it is probably more acceptable to moms.

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              1. You can not judge a book by its cover. In fact, Stone does not work on certain Jewish holidays and is replaced in the booth for those games. I do not think he was like Koufax who did not want to pitch on the Sabbath. Stone pitched for both the Cubs and Sox and called games for both too. When Hawk Harrelson retires after next year, Stone will be our beloved veteran in the booth.

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                1. “Serious” Jews are rare outside Orthodox communities. This wasn’t always true, but these days, it is. Most of us have married “out” and my granddaughter doesn’t even consider herself Jewish. Koufax was unique in his day. I don’t think we’ll see another like him. He was proof you a really CAN be Jewish AND and an athlete. It was a big thing. I don’t think most people outside the Jewish community realized what a big reach outside Koufax was to what was to a very insular, self-protective community. It changed things.

                  Stone probably takes off the High Holidays — Rosh HaShannah, Yom Kippur and maybe a day or two of Passover. I did that for a long time, even though I was never religious. It was a statement of where I came from. Change sometimes has implications no one anticipated.

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                2. Rich, good to know Steve will replace Hawk in the booth. I know Hawk is loved in Chi town. I have fond memories of him from his Boston days. He gave me some truly goofy interviews. My only problem — and it’s minor — is Hawk is a “we and us” guy. But who am I to complain in a city that had Johnny Most?

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                  1. Stone works with Hawk now as color commentator. They are lining up a play by play guy who already does a lot of home games. Hawks does not do all the home games and will do less next year. Stone is 69 so no telling how long he will go on.

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      1. Hahaha!!! You made my day with your comment. People are afraid of anything that is unfamiliar to them there is still a lot of ignorance out there 😦 but it will get better it has too! I’m a bisexual woman and people are very excepting when I tell them most of the time, however I have had a few people both gay and straight tell me that bisexuality doesn’t exist! I should blog about this.

        Thank you 😊

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        1. Things are worse under our Hater In Chief. He is the first president in decades not to mention Pride month. In fact, he took the occasion to speak to an anti-LGBT group. His appointment to the Supreme Court will likely be the deciding vote in taking back rights. States all over the south are embolden to present new anti-gay laws. Things are much worse since 45 took office.

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              1. Rich, I think if it comes to that, we are all due for the firing squad. It’s why this is a terrifying political period. Despite what a lot of people say, it’s not one thing. It’s a whole LOT of things. We’ve got a big time racist in power and the people he hates most, starting at the top, are anyone who isn’t rich, white, and just like him. If you have an education, believe in anything, pretty much, he hates you. I think he starts with Muslims, then works down through Gays, non-Whites of all kinds and that’s actually MOST of our population. A lot of people are just plain scared and I think we all have good reason to feel that way. It isn’t just stupidity. it’s serious racism and hatred. Just what my mother warned us about.

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                1. He is the first president in decades not to have a proclamation for Pride month. In fact, he made a point to speak to a homophobic group. I know a lot of people who are upset, but will they vote when the time comes?


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