This isn’t a friendly town. People fraternize with the people who attend their church and seem to regard anyone else as potentially hostile.

Of course we didn’t know that when we moved here. We knew that it was a very white town, that Garry was likely to be the first (only) person of color, and I might well be the first (only) Jew. In fact, apparently well-intentioned people said stuff like “Gee, I’ve never known a Jewish person before” and honestly didn’t see anything wrong with it.  Garry just got stares until they realized they’d seen him on TV. Celebrity beats skin color, at least here in the north.

Photo: Garry Armstrong

Our situation was made more complicated by our neighbor, Ned. Big guy. Rode a Harley. I love Harleys, but there are Harleys and then, there are Harleys. This one was chopped and loud. When Ned started his bike, the vibration alone could knock me out of bed.

Ned was massive. Tattooed. Hung with a bunch of skin-heads. They had raucous parties with lots of beer. We didn’t expect to be invited and we weren’t. Ned also flew a Confederate flag. Prominently. We learned he’d always done it. It was part of some family roots thing tying him to his original home state of Georgia. Me? I thought them — and still think — it’s time the south moved on. The war ended a long time ago. Get over it. But I’m from New York so I probably don’t get it. Apparently a lot of people don’t get it.

Our neighbor’s house was the only one in the Valley flying a confederate flag and we were the only mixed-race couple in town. Ironic, to say the least. And we were a poster couple for hate groups.

Garry is pragmatic and tough. His mild-mannered demeanor belies his Marine Corps interior. Semper fi. Moreover, he couldn’t have survived 40-years as a reporter without being tough. One fine summer’s day, music screaming from Ned’s boombox, Garry looked at me and murmured those fighting words: “This is ridiculous!”

Photo: Garry Armstrong

He marched down the driveway, through the woods that join our two houses, to Ned’s front door. Garry knocked. Loudly. When Ned finally answered, Garry said: “Hi. I’m your neighbor. Garry Armstrong. Do we have a problem?”

Shortly the flag disappeared along with a noxious black jockey statue. Turned out, Ned was a plumber. He fixed our bathroom pipes. The whole skinhead thing dissolved in the face of a brown-skinned guy who did news on Boston TV. Seemed it was less important who Ned was than who Ned, with a little encouragement, was willing to become.

Eventually Ned got into drugs. Or something. We were never sure what. His wife left. His life fell apart. One day, he vanished. Fortunately, he gave back our extension ladder before leaving.

Photo: Garry Armstrong

Other folks live there now. They are not actively hostile, which is about the best one could say of them. In the two and half years they have lived there, they’ve never said hello. I doubt they ever will. They object to our dogs barking. Hard to argue with that but they’ve got dogs who do their own share of barking. There are a lot of dogs around here. If you are outside in the evening, you can always hear a dog barking somewhere.

I miss Ned. No one fixed pipes like he did and gave us a huge discount. He turned out to be a funny guy and a good neighbor. Who’d have thunk it.

Author: Marilyn Armstrong

Writer, photography, blogger. Previously, technical writer. I am retired and delighted to be so. May I live long and write frequently.

31 thoughts on “NEIGHBORS”

    1. Life, they DID turn down the music. They offered me food, drink and my choice of wimmin (jesting). I’m used to such confrontation.


  1. I’m sure there is a moral (or several) in that story for all of us! 😉

    I’m a dog guy – i LIKE dogs! I don’t currently own one but have in the past. I am literally surrounded by dogs, three sides of which have owners who are not home during most of the day and whose dogs make sure everyone knows they are ‘protecting’ their property by barking loudly. My neighbours (dogs) are no more than 50 metres from me. The last side’s owners are sometimes home during the day but leave their ‘pet’ alone and outside in the weather when they go on 2 week holidays. They make no effort to quieten their dog when he barks (regularly) between 11 and 12 am at night or 6 am in the morning.

    I LIKE dogs – dog owners not so much!


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    1. We shut up our dogs when they get raucous at night and I think we actually have them more or less under control. But dogs are dogs. They don’t bark hysterically ALL the time, but there are times when they do. Usually, because they see the neighbors. They don’t much like them.


    2. Bob, I am with you. Those neighbors had two beautiful Alaskan huskies. Kept them chained up!! Strangers used to be afraid of the Huskies. I visited them from time to time. Felt sorry for their predicament. They were really nice dogs. Their owners?? Read my lips!

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      1. 😮

        Love huskies! Most of the working huskies i’ve seen on TV though are often chained? I wonder if they are inclined to fight or run off if they are not? I would hope that as pets people might give them more consideration… But i hope people would do lots of things that they don’t seem to do. 😦


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          1. Agreed! Some people spoil dogs and try to treat them exactly like they were children and some just treat them as security alarms there are only a few of us who care for them properly and learn about their pets for everyone’s benefit – or so it seems sometimes. (My locality in particular)

            Sleep well 🙂


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        1. Bob, those two huskies may have been chained as a precautionary measure but they received little attention from their owners. They certainly welcomed my visits and were very affectionate.

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            1. We had a lot of trouble dealing with the dogs. We could have taken them home and he would have been happy. Both of them — and when she had puppies, more. I knew that a pair of huskies was too much for me. Our fences were too low and they are renowned chewers and fairly rambunctious, active, big, furry dogs. I was reaching that point where I knew my limits and I was not up to the task — and we already HAD five dogs. With more big dogs, we wouldn’t have had a home, just a great big kennel. But I’ve always felt bad about it. Both dogs were eventually killed. One by a car, escaping into the road and the other was shot by a farmer for attacking sheep.


              1. 😦

                5 was certainly enough for one house. What is it with dogs and sheep? Don’t owners feed them enough? or is it just rough ‘horse’play ( you know what i mean! 🙂 )



  2. “Seemed it was less important who Ned was than who Ned, with a little encouragement, was willing to become.”

    Great example of how people can change, and that first impressions based upon appearances aren’t always to be trusted.

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    1. Fandango, I spent many years having to “go where no man has gone before” on the job and in real life. Appearances are frequently deceiving.

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  3. Donning my “Ducky” character for a moment…Reminds me of the time I did a “sitdown” with three KKK Imperial Wizards. First, I explained they had to remove their hoods. Told them the cameras couldn’t handle the white cloth and we wanted people to appreciate their celebrity. Removing their hoods, I offered to share pipe tobacco and a “beverage” to relax them. My smile clearly cut through their apprehension as we rolled tape. It was a cordial session as I led through them through a series of questions of why the United States needed to purify itself. As we wrapped and shook hands, they thanked me for the opportunity to present their views without hostile interruption. I thanked them for giving me their time and honesty. I was still smiling when they walked out.


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  5. Same up here. We don’t know the name of our neighbors – and they don’t seem to want to be known. When we lived in the country it was different. Even people that lived quite a ways away – we knew who they were. I think us modern folks are so crowded together that our homes seem like a place of solitude that we don’t want open. ??? I’m not sure why it is? But I don’t think it’s good.


    1. We knew our neighbors in town. Here, we know two of three, the third not wanting to be known. But you know, New England isn’t necessarily the friendliest place to live. There are many other places a lot friendlier than here.


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