Last week, I talked about using controlled breathing to turn off the “Fight or Flight Response” in your body and minimize the harmful effects of stress on your body. You can build on that to reduce stress even more.

Manchaug June 2015


Reducing stress requires mind and body relaxing together. Mental relaxation is probably harder for most people — for good reason. Most of us think all the time. More than 50,000 thoughts flash through your mind every day. Buddhists call this mindless internal monologue “Chatter” or “Monkey Mind”.

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Most “chatter” is negative. Brooding on the past, self-criticism, worries, to-do lists, and so on. This stuff has a powerful effect on your body and psyche.

A thought is reality to your body.

Worrying releases the same destructive hormones that would be released if the worried-about event were really happening. The goal of all relaxation techniques is to anchor your mind in the present, to shut out anxiety and negative thoughts, most of which are locked into the past or future.


An intense focus on “now”, including how you are breathing, can override “Chatter.” It will give your mind a mini vacation,  a brief, therapeutic — and probably much-needed — break.

Abdominal breathing is a form of meditation. It can help alleviate symptoms of ADD, reduce fidgeting and short attention span.

When you’re in a stressed breathing pattern, you can shift to abdominal breathing. This will pretty much instantly reduce tension, focus your mind, and increase your energy level. It do the same thing to your mind if you feel yourself going into a particularly toxic session of “Monkey Mind” negativity.


Start taking slow, steady abdominal breaths until you feel your body relax. You can start a counting exercise as you breathe. Or you can go directly into a mini visualization, as follows:

  •  Imagine, with each inhalation, you’re breathing peace, calm, and well-being in to every part of your body. With each exhalation, imagine you’re blowing the tension and negativity out.
  • Try saying “peace in” each time you inhale — and “tension out” each time you exhale.

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  • Picture a giant wave of relaxation and tranquility pouring over you with each breath you take, soaking through your body from the top down as you complete inhaling and exhaling.
  • Feel the tension melt away from the muscles in your head and neck. Then feel it flow down your shoulders, arms, torso — finally your pelvis, legs and feet.
  • When a wave has saturated your body with relaxation, visualize another coming in with your next breath. You can add color and light to each wave — your favorite color or a bright light.
  • When you feel loose and mellow, refocus on your breath, then gradually transition back to your day.

It turns out that the process of learning stress control techniques can ease tension and anxiety.

Research shows that feeling helpless creates as much — or more — physiological damage as would the thing or event you fear. Feeling in control reduces stress. All by itself. If you know you can do something to help yourself cope, you won’t feel overwhelmed or helpless. Stress will have less control over you.

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An old but still relevant example is an Air Force study made during World War II. The study showed that co-pilots suffered from more stress during combat missions than pilots. Pilots were in control of the plane; co-pilots were not.

It’s reassuring to know that one of the reasons mind-body techniques work is that they enhance your sense of control over yourself — and therefore your life.

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8 replies

  1. I like that “Monkey mind”. To do lists are always rolling around in my mind. One does have to let go and breathing is a good method.


    • I love the phrase ‘monkey mind’ too! It’s so descriptive of the chatter in your brain that doesn’t let you relax or go to sleep. The lists running through our brains are what shortens our lives and makes us crazy! We’ll get things done even if we don’t obsess about it 24/7! Breathing is my favorite mind cleanser. You can’t run through lists of you’re focusing on your breathing, especially if you’re counting and timing your breaths.

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  2. “A thought is reality to your body.” What a great line. And so true.

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    • Good advice for dealing with El Duque


      • Do whatever helps with Duke. Maybe try to teach him some zen exercises. Rub his belly and talk soothingly to him. See if you can get him to sit still, calmly with you for a short while a few times a day. Just something to turn off the wired part of his brain for a few moments here and there.


        • He isn’t a good listener. My friend Sophie (breeder and friend) says that the “baby puppy” part of the dog affects the dog a lot more than we think. Duke doesn’t take a hint. “No” to him means “keep doing it, but harder.” He has been goring me with his claws, so I’ve got bandages all over my arms. He isn’t trying to hurt me, mind you. It’s just that I’m a bit fragile and he is a strong little dog. He really isn’t a bad kid, but he is jealous of the other dogs and he’s even jealous if Garry and I get too close. He has to be in the middle.

          He is better than he was, but he’s hard work for us. We are used to gentler dogs.


    • There was a whole book written many years ago called something like, “Your Body Believes Every Word You Say!” So if you say something is a pain in your neck, your body thinks there is a pain in your neck. If you say something is killing you, your body absorbs that negative thought as reality. Fascinating research out there!


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