“A woman can never be too thin or too rich”

I could live easily with being too rich, but I have been too thin and it was not lovely. People were alarmed and frightened when they saw me. Of course, there was good reason for it because I was starving to death from a bad surgery that left me unable to absorb food.

When I hit 95 pounds and I had the distinct feeling I was actually dying — and I had no insurance — before Mass Health was functioning — somehow, I found a doctor who took me into the hospital and repaired me, told me to gain 30 pounds, preferably 40 — which took longer than it should have, but I’d forgotten how to eat. And no one sent me a bill.

Then I got cancer. They stuffed me full of chemicals and I put on 30 pounds faster than you can say FAT, FAT, FAT and there I have remained. Oddly, pretty much everyone said “You look SO much better! You looked ill before.” When size zero is too big, you probably need to put on few pounds.

I was still a size 2. I lost another 20 pounds after this.

I was not designed to be skinny and I was not built to be huge. I was built to be solid, which is what I currently am and probably will be. It has been a long time since my size changed.

The current belief that beauty and thinness are the same are an advertising thing. The clothing that comes out of design houses is built not only for thin women, but for tall ones. I’m short. I’m solid. I used to have a waistline but with age, it seems to have fallen down and become part of the top of my thighs. I didn’t know that could happen.

We need fewer Barbie dolls and clothing that looks good on real, live women who do things, like go grocery shopping and take walks with their dogs. And who eat a normal amount of food and even — AN OCCASIONAL DESSERT!

You can be too thin.

But too rich? I could probably live very nicely with too rich.

Categories: Fashion, Food, Health, humor

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33 replies

  1. I think that too rich is curable by being charitable, but too thin is much harder to fix. I’m sorry you had such hard health times! Oh, and I read that they are remaking Barbies to actually resemble humans–however much that might discourage some folks!


  2. It’s true about the world — our world, anyway — being designed for tall people. My kitchen counter hits me at the level of my bra. I have a dry sink from the early 1900s that’s the perfect height. I do most of my work on that. πŸ™‚


    • I used to be able to fix the show curtain hooks, but I shrunk. Now, someone else has to do it. Garry can still reach it, but when I need a tall someone, I call the kid. Who would think someone as little as me could breed such a big kid πŸ™‚

      Everything is too tall for me — except the toilets. THEY are too short.

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  3. I got very thin once due to ill health, not a natural state for me either (I tended to slim but curvy) and looked ill. Oddly enough, that was my so-called ‘ideal’ weight for my age and height. I look and fel better a little heavier and don’t need to diet to keep a false self-image going ;).


  4. Bravo! I am pleased to see the trend turning from ‘you can never be too thin’ to sensible sizes. One day the designers will have to catch up, because who buys most of their clothing or at least is responsible for them (designers) being in business? Jane Q. Public. And she’s not 6’1″ and maybe 125 lbs on her worst day either.


    • They ARE making clothing bigger and being bigger no longer requires you wear a mumu everywhere. Besides, I’m such a shrimp, fashion never worked for me, even when I was really thin — but I sure could buy really tiny jeans. I don’t think I could get ONE leg into them now.


  5. You can be too thin and I do think you can be too rich. I would be more in favour of a more equitable distribution of wealth. No one should have to live on the streets and not have enough to eat.


  6. Speaking as one of the tall ones, the clothing coming out of the design houses for the thin ones, only fits if you have no waistline. Mine was perfect, it was around what it thought was the waist. Unfortunately it dropped a few centimeters on the way to the back. I made my own clothes for a few years and knew how to alter my clothes to fit. Unfortunately we are not all Twiggys, and have our own marks left on our bodies by various circumstances out of our control. No-one is perfect, although of course we are, it is the others that are not perfect.


  7. I couldn’t agree more! Media has so distorted what is normal for human beings that it’s tragic!


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