It’s going to be a long day. Any time we have to get up early for one of these extended audiological checkups for Garry’s cochlear implant, it’s going to take a while. This is the one-month followup and I believe it will all be good news.

I also am pretty sure he needs a tune-up, especially for his left (the non-cochlear) ear because — how ironic! — that’s the one through which he hears much less than in the “new, rebuilt” ear.

We didn’t get that “sudden” moment when he just says “Oh, wow, I can hear.” More like realizing that he can hear the rain on the roof — and it’s loud! He didn’t know rain could be so loud. Or hear the beep from the microwave in the kitchen, the funny scrunchy noise you hear when The Duke has found something hard and plastic to chew on. The buzz the washer and dryer give from the basement and realizing he can tell the difference between the loud buzz (washer) and softer buzz (dryer).

How LOUD the dogs really are! And that he still won’t answer the telephone or even try. He hates the phone and I don’t think he will ever entirely recover because he hated them even when he could hear on one.

Finally, having an actual conversation with a total stranger in the grocery store when normally, he’d not even have heard her say “hello,” much less indulged in a conversation about whether or not it’s possible to not have failed to mention a sexual assault for 36 years. His answer being, “Absolutely. I remember how terrified those women were when I tried to talk to them.” Because he covered a lot of domestic violence calls and the story was always the same — women terrified, men hostile.

Our police chief told us that the most dangerous calls they make are for domestic violence. Those are the ones where a cop is most likely to be injured and also the cases that will never go to court, nor justice be done.

And me thinking there were things I’d never told Garry yet because all it would do it upset him and there was no reason dredge up old misery. Women don’t tell their men things. We don’t want to upset them if there’s nothing to be done to fix it — and they get extremely, sometimes lethally upset. Who needs that?

Having a reasonably normal conversation with a friend … and not having to say “what” a dozen times.

Discovering he can still take off his new hearing aids, put back the headphones and ignore me for a joyful few hours. Drat. I should never have pointed out he could do that!

It will be a long day and Garry’s not feeling well. Tomorrow we go for blood tests and find out what — if anything other than hay fever and age — is the problem. So let’s brace ourselves for two long days!

Author: Marilyn Armstrong

Writer, photography, blogger. Previously, technical writer. I am retired and delighted to be so. May I live long and write frequently.

86 thoughts on “BRACE YOURSELF! GONNA BE A LONG DAY – Marilyn Armstrong”

  1. I remember when they did the first cochlear implant on a young girl in Australia. I don’t know whether she was delighted or terrified by the sounds she could hear. I don’t think anybody envisaged that the implant would work on adults too. So I am really thrilled that Garry got his implant. All the best for the next couple of days. Regards. Tracy.

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            1. Reflections, Excuse me for that. “Reflections In A Golden Eye” looked like a good movie. Elizabeth Taylor, Marlon Brando, Julie Harris, Brian Keith, Robert Forster in starring roles. a Carson McCullers script. Very warped, ugly relation ships. Never watched it completely. Not a good film. I was just playing with the words. Again, Reflections, my apologies for being “too cute”.

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  2. I hope it will be nothing too serious. The implant seems to me making a huge difference already but it’s funny that he likes to take a few hours off from hearing now and then. Still I guess it is overwhelming when you are not used to it.

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  3. Fingers crossed for both of you. Let’s hope it’s just a stress thing. He’s been under a lot of stress, both good and bad. And how wonderful he can hear stuff now. He should be grateful you don’t have a tin roof!

    When my mother finally got her hearing aids, she discovered that she had to turn them off when she was knitting, the clacking was intense! and one day she called me laughing, told me she forgot about the hearing aids being on, and tried to dust the metal venetian blinds. She said she damn near died from the racket, lol.

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      1. I would say miraculous is putting mildly. Wait till you hit your first thunderstorm, lol. And the sound leaves make, blowing across the grass in fall. And lying in bed in the winter, hearing the wind howl outside…oh and we mustn’t forget listening for Santa Claus on Christmas Eve…

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        1. Judy? My 1st thunderstorm? I thought you liked me.

          Hell, I’ll take on the thunderboomers — at high noon — on main street.

          BIG hugs and thanks. Judy.


  4. I am so glad that everything is working out well with Gary’s implant. I also hope that he is OK otherwise. I had a big scare with Mr. Swiss, but after almost a month of all the possible examinations he could have, nothing was found. I think he was really worried about the CT Scan but all his organs are intact. Now a case of mind over matter probably.

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    1. “Mom”, thanks. Today’s cochlear eval shows major improvement in hearing and word discernment. I still have a ways to go but am very optimistic.

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    1. Rugby, I think there’s something in the air that’s getting to people, especdially those of us of a certain age.

      Today’s Cochlear eval went very well.


    1. I don’t think he’ll ever get over it. He hated the phone long before he stopped being able to use one. It was the TV station, you know. They were ALWAYS calling. They never gave him a night off, so he still jumps when it rings. I think if he never needed to use a telephone again, he’d be one happy camper.


    2. 3 years, Jan, with no phone use? Well, makes me feel better about shying away from the phone just a month into the cochlear implant. I appreciate the perspective. Thanks,much!

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    1. We’ve got blood testing tomorrow — and THEN we’ve got the sorting out to do. I’m betting on vitamin deficiencies. I am supposed to have this kind of testing done every six months … but somewhere in there I got cancer and my heart failed, so I don’t think I’ve had vitamin level tests done in maybe 8 years … which is a LONG time for someone without a stomach.

      Yes, LOTS of maintenance. I used to go to the doctor once a year. Now, it’s … well … something is always happening. I suppose that’s the age thing.

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            1. I know all that testing is really hard. I hate it. I have no veins, so I need to really choke down a lot of liquid and pray they can find a working vein. Each time they do it, it gets harder. And so much of the time, you get all these tests and they find nothing at all. Or at least, nothing useful to you. But at least that way, you know what ISN’T wrong.

              I used to always say that the catastrophes we expect are never the ones that happen to us. It’s always the ones we never looked for that get us. It’s why I’ve tried to give up worrying. I always worry about the wrong stuff. Take care of yourself. Let’s ALL take care of ourselves!

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  5. Thrilled the implant is working and Garry’s hearing sounds again, some he many not have heard in years. Hoping beyond hope that he’s alright and whatever is going on is minor (can there ever be minor) and not related somehow. xxx fingers and toes Garry and Marilyn xxx

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    1. It’s a gradual thing, but he has come a VERY long way in a single month. Better than expected. As for the rest of us? I think we are just getting old, though for me the possibility of vitamin deficiency is something I kind of forgot about 8 or 9 years ago.

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      1. lol, I was recently reminded by the chiropractor to take mgm which is calcium magnesium together in massive doses, and amazingly it’s helping. vit I can’t afford, too damn expensive or I would. I do take vit C and the eye specialist told me to take fish oil. other than that, I don’t do much

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  6. Hope that despite the bracing, the days go smoothly with good results. Great progress with the implant! First thing I do when I get home after a day at work is rip out my hearing aids. My ears are tired and the sounds of cooking are very jarring. Of course, I have mild-moderate loss and can hear a lot without them.

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    1. Garry gets tired of listening and hearing. When you have a hearing disability, hearing and listening is real work and he gets very tired. They may actually be part of the tiredness he’s experiencing — listening so hard.


    2. Steph, didn’t realize you wear hearing aids. You’re a kindred spirit. Yes, there comes a time–during the evening –when the hearing aids/cochlear implant parts — must come off. My head and ears are sore.


  7. Best wishes for both of you! I’m positive that the hearing exam will be passed with flying colors – it’s very amazing they can do that now. Take care of yourself while dealing with these long days. Stress doesn’t help the immune system at all… 😦

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    1. Garry’s hearing tests went VERY well. He has come a huge way in just a month. Better than expected and it will keep getting better. It won’t be perfect, but I’m no perfect either. I have a feeling eventually his hearing will be better than mine.

      This little camera is a much better version than the one I had, by the way. If it would STOP RAINING for a while, I’d be able to take some pictures!


        1. The weather is supposed to be nice this weekend. So with a little luck, I’ll get a few pictures in which case, no problem. But I took a few shots today, even though it was drizzling. I love the balance thingie in it.


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