REMORSE, REGRET, AND WISHFUL THINKING – Marilyn Armstrong

FOWC with Fandango — Remorse

I think the remorse I felt has — with the years — slid into wondering what would have happened if I had done the other thing rather than whatever I did. Remorse, like anger and rage, is self-destructive. It doesn’t solve a problem. From a personal point of view, it makes it worse. It makes you worse.

You can regret and move on. You can wish you could do it again … and still move on. But remorse? You need either a priest to give you absolution or an actual encounter to let you make amends. There’s no “thinking your way back.” So for many of us now, where we felt remorse, it has been replaced by wishful thinking and perhaps regrets.

Remorse is meaningless when there’s nothing to be done, especially if it is something that is highly unlikely to ever be repeated. If you cannot solve the problem, you can’t fix it. Remorse — like obsession and rage — has no useful place when the original issue has gone forever.

When the object of remorse has vanished to another world, it’s time to move on unless depression and rage are your “thing.”



Categories: #FOWC, Daily Prompt, Death and Dying, Fandango's One Word Challenge, Photography

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9 replies

  1. As you said, if it can’t be addressed- apologies made, explanation perhaps- it serves no useful purpose. Knowing you are sorry for whatever it was, and then not letting it happen again seems to be the way to move on from it, I think.

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  2. I have deep remorse about something. It caused pain and suffering. It’s hard at times…

    Remorse is deep regret or guilt for a wrong committed.

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  3. Remorse is a bit like worry, it can be a terrible wast of energy.
    Leslie

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  4. It’s so complicated.

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