FEAR OF FAILURE OR FEAR OF SUCCESS? – Marilyn Armstrong

Fandango’s Provocative Question #24

I think at one time or another, I’ve been equally afraid of both. I was afraid to learn Hebrew, at least in part because I was afraid if I succeeded, I would lose my English. That was not such an unrealistic fear, either. I knew a lot of former English-speakers who spoke very poor English because they spoke almost exclusively Hebrew.

It turned out there was no danger of that because my Hebrew was abysmal and I don’t think it would have improved. The problem wasn’t the sounds. It was the grammar and oddly enough, the simplicity. There are only three tenses in Hebrew: present, past, future. So you can get to a complicated concept like: “If I had come here when I was 17, I would have been here for 27 years by now.”

You can’t say that in Hebrew. You can say something like it, but you can’t translate from English to Hebrew. In fact, you never really learn a language until you stop translating and start thinking in that language — and I never was able to do that. Fear of success or failure?

Sometimes, it’s not really clear what you fear. Maybe both?

I was not afraid of being a boss, but I really hated it and having done it briefly, never wanted to do anything like that again. It turns out, I need my hands ON the keyboard rather than telling other writers what to do. I had to restrain myself from making them get up and taking over the project. Not a boss. That’s not a fear. It was painfully learned self-knowledge.

If I knew I would be able to sell a book, really sell it, I’d make a stab at writing one. But since I seriously flunked marketing, I’ve never wanted to do it again. The publishing industry is pretty weird these days. I don’t feel like writing just to see my byline on the cover. If it isn’t going to make money, I don’t want to do it.

So really, I’m not sure exactly where I fit into this question. There are things I don’t want to do, things I know I can’t do or at least, can’t do well enough to bother. I never refused a job if it was something I could do and I’m not afraid of failure because I have failed often enough to recognize that success and failure are just bumps and dips in the same road. Everyone experiences both at one time or another.

Sometimes, when you look back, it’s hard to know which was which. Some of those failures turn out to be the reason you eventually succeeded.



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  1. Even I have experienced fear like when we think something bad or worse may happen and avoid doing it , it may not happen but sometimes we may not expect nay we expect because a small tiny internal voice alerts us but we many times ignore and do and fall into trouble. This internal voice is our experiences .

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  2. Pointless to be afraid, also a waste of energy.
    Leslie

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  3. I was a boss in many of my jobs during my working career, but I really didn’t enjoy that role. I did okay at it, but like you, I’m more of a hands-on type. I ended up spending the last 15 years of my working days as an “individual contributor.” As long as my boss wasn’t a micro-manager and let me do what I did best, I was happy.

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    • I was considered a brilliant manager, although to be fair, the company was nearly collapsing and when I left, did collapse — so the accolades were a bit late. I hated the writers who worked at a pace so slow that a full stop would have been fasterThe bosses were afraid to move them along because they didn’t understand the machinery and didn’t know what to do if they left. The answer? Close the company. Which is exactly what they did after I left. Oh, and the writers got twice the salary I did because they were “important.” Maybe if it had not been a company that was dying from blood loss, I might have liked it more? But it was awful.

      I went back to doing what I do: writing!

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