Before I ever started blogging, I was talking with a guy who was a blogger. I asked him why he enjoyed blogging. His answer surprised me. He said that on his blog, he could be the man he always wanted to be. He added that he liked who he was on his blog better than who he was in the real world.
That floored me. I couldn’t fathom how someone could be one person in real life and another person in virtual life. But he explained that he could more freely express himself on his blog. That he was actually more forthright, honest, and open about his opinions, perspectives, and beliefs in the blogosphere than he could ever be in real life, where he felt constrained by the etiquette of polite society. His blogging self, he said, was more reflective of who he was than his “real” self. My mind was blown.
So the question is:
It’s obvious that Fandango never lived with someone who appears on television or any other performance art. Because pretty much all of them have two separate personalities: the stage or screen, and at home.
Garry has always been shy and not much of a talker. Put a microphone and camera in front of him and he’s a nonstop talker. Not at home, but sometimes with close friends and family when he tells stories about work, it’s like he is back at work. I talk a lot if there’s something that interests me, but not about everything and this transforms into writing, too. I write things that interest me and they are not always current events. They can be history, anecdotes, or tales. Or funny, if I’m lucky.
The same goes for writers. People write murder mysteries, but they aren’t murderers. They write historical dramas, but they live in the present. They write about women, but they are men. Vice versa, too.
We ALL have differing personalities and typically our “work” personality is not the same as our private selves. I have no idea why anyone would find this shocking. It’s absolutely normal for a lot of folks.
So do I like my “real” self as much, more, or less than my “writing” self? It depends on how well I write. When I write very well, I like it better. It doesn’t mean I like myself less.