This isn’t a question I can answer. It’s not that I haven’t had any life-changing tough decision, but because I’ve had so many. Which one was the hardest? I can’t say because all of the hard ones were — in that context — the hardest.
What has been the most difficult, hardest, or most painful decision you’ve ever had to make in your life?
I have had to choose whether to live or die. I lived — obviously.
I had to give up a marriage that was more like a friendship with benefits. That was tough.
I chose to leave the U.S. and live in Israel — and then had to give up the life I’d built there and come back. Double difficult and I still dream of Jerusalem — in Hebrew.
There were more choices, many too personal to discuss.
I don’t think most people make one decision which is the “life-changer.” Our lives are a series of decisions. Each choice, no matter how minute, takes us down a different path. Though a decision may seem tiny — just a slight shift — yet because of that slight shift, other things happen which would never have occurred without that little alteration in the path.
Losing pets, as Fandango says, is heartbreaking, though it was never the hardest decision I’ve made. By that time the decision was final, we had already agonized over every other possible solution. All other choices had been deemed unlikely, unworkable, or apt to cause more rather than less misery. We both still tear up over all the dogs and cats who have passed through our lives.
Pets die before us. I worry about their future passing when they are still young because I’ve been down this road and I see the future. I understand having pets will be joyful and loving, but the end will come. I will hate that end, but I will deal with it. It’s that or living without pets and I think that would be worse. I always hope we’ve made their relatively short lives as good as we were able.