SHARING THE WORLD? MAYBE WE SHOULD SHARE LESS?

SHARE YOUR WORLD 3-14-2022

There are days when I feel there’s too much sharing going on. Today, after neglecting my email for just a day and a half, I had more than 500 emails, most of them news from either the Washington Post, New York Time, National Geographic, or The Smithsonian. Mind you, I subscribe to these newspapers and magazines, but do they have to send hundreds of repetitive blurbs? By far the worst offender is the Washington Post. They send an average of three to five blurbs an hour during the day and who knows how many at night.

It wouldn’t matter except for the minor problem that it makes it almost impossible to find anything BUT the Washington Post. They have a cycle. Big story on top. Next blurb, often the same and they rotate the other stores. Third blurb? Top story moves down one notch, but if it’s a really important story (to them), the new top story is just a rehash of the original.

It’s like listening to “all news radio” when after 20 minutes, you’ve heard the entire cycle and if you don’t change the channel, you’re going to hear it again. And again.

I’m not uninterested, but being blasted by news constantly makes me unwilling to read anything. There was a reason why we used to only got one newspaper a day. That’s still a good reason to not keep reiterating the same stories over and over and over. The Boston Globe (to which I do not subscribe) does the same thing, but you can’t actually read the story unless you pay them. The Times limits themselves to maybe four in 24 hours. National Geographic and The Smithsonian send you one important story per day. I love their stories and their restraint in not banging you over the head with endless repetitive news.

So. For all of you who feel I’m ignoring you? You aren’t being ignored. You are buried in endless news blurbs. Blame Jeff Bezos. I think this overwhelming volume or repetitive news is making me more likely to cancel the subscription. It’s worth pointing out that if I wasn’t interested in the story the first three times you sent it? I’m probably not going to be interested in more rehashes of the same story.

And now, the questions!

QUESTIONS

How do you tell if someone has a sense of humor? 

Watch something funny. If they don’t laugh, that’s your first clue.

What sort of music do you prefer?

I’m very eclectic. I’m mad about Beethoven, love old Rock & Roll (Credence, Beatles, Doors, Stones, et al). Solid on folk music and some show music. I don’t particularly like opera, but I do like choral music — including hymns and Christmas Carols. I know they aren’t my hymns or carols, but I know the words and the songs are so easy to harmonize.

What I don’t love? Cool jazz leaves me cold. Even hot jazz doesn’t warm me up. I like crooners — Sinatra, Mathis — too many to name. Loathe 12-tone music. I hated it the first time I heard it back in college and over the years, my opinion has not changed.

I like the whole impressionist and romantic schools of music. Some of the most beautiful melodies come from those musicians. I like almost everything Gershwin wrote and pretty much all of Cole Porter.

As I said: eclectic.

That is one of the huge pluses of have studied music. You become acquainted with a lot of different types of music. I think everyone should at the least get one course in music and art. How can you appreciate it if you know nothing about it except what you hear on your car radio or see on social media?

Thoughts on gravy or ‘sauce”?   Yea or nay?

Is this a question about whether you call it gravy or sauce? Or is it a question about whether or not you like gravy or sauce?

I call it sauce if it goes on pasta or comes out of a bottle labeled “sauce.” I call it gravy if I make it from meat drippings. I know others call it different things and that’s fine. It’s not an issue for me. You can call it stardust if you prefer.

As for whether or not I like it? It depends. Does it taste good? If yes, I like it. If no, probably I don’t like it.

Would you enjoy a hot air balloon ride?

I have always wanted to go up in a hot air balloon. I almost did once, but just as I was finally first in line, something went wrong with the balloon and I never got to fly. So do I like it? I think I would if I ever got to do it. I liked gliding (in an airplane with no engine — it was incredibly cool) and I love flying in small aircraft. I might like sky diving if I could convince myself to jump out of the plane. I think you’d have to physically throw me out of the craft.

What do you think is widely taken for granted?

Most married women in my generation. We have husbands who assume we will serve them and we do. That was probably our first mistake. Unfortunately, having made that mistake, we wind up continuing the pattern for however long we live together — which can be many years. This is not to say that all such men are demanding or boorish, but they do expect to be cared for — and they are.



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11 replies

  1. I agree with you, Marilyn, about how newspapers and other online sources inundate our email. If I don’t look at my email for a couple of days, when I look at it again, it’s really out of control. Personal emails from family and friends get lost in the avalanche of other, less important emails. The way I get to Share Your World is often through Fandango, but I have lately been searching for Share Your World specifically, and then I usually find it. I have another email address which is more controllable. Only one of the newspapers (NYT) I subscribe to have that one. But unsolicited political emails are the worst! I just delete them usually without reading them. Sometimes I go into the email and click on he “Unsubscribe” link at the very bottom, usually in very small type!

    I also share your musical preferences. I like opera but only if I am watching it. I don’t listening to it without the visual. I like some jazz, if it has a melody, but a lot of it just goes on and on and it doesn’t do anything for me. Dixieland is one form of jazz I really like.

    I also agree that women are taken for granted but that is less so nowadays. I am lucky to have a husband who shares the work – in fact, he often does most of it! I am more often busy doing something else than he is. I just read that the Violence Against Women Act has been approved again by Congress, after a lapse of a few years. (You know, during the previous administration when the president didn’t give a damn and definitely took women for granted himself!)

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    • I used to live next door — when I still lived with my parents — to a group of jazz musicians. Well-known guys like Bud Powell and Lenny Tristano. I babysat for Lenny’s kids. I really WANTED to like the music, but it was (to me, anyway) dull. I know Dixieland is considered jazz, but I think it’s in a separate category and I like it a lot. I used to play a lot of Scott Joplin back when my hands still worked.

      I know younger women are better about defining more realistic relationships with their mates. For a long time, Garry’s working hours were so long I was lucky if he managed to get home eat, and catch a few hours of sleep before he was back at work again. Today, though, we’ve both been retired for a long time so I figure a slightly more equitable arrangement would be kind of nice. But he is used to my doing that stuff. He’s turning 80, so change isn’t easy. I get that. But I wish he were more capable because if something happens to me, he will need some of those skills. It’s not just to help me. He may need to help himself.

      Sometime during the COVID outbreak, the WP went nuts and started punching out endless reiterations of the same stories. The thing is, between rehashes, NOTHER HAPPENED. It’s exactly the same story with a new headline and maybe a new first paragraph.

      Yesterday as the email rose to over 500 — in just a day and half — I had to do a mass delete — and just hope I wasn’t getting rid of something I needed. I do store important items. It had been my birthday, so I knew there were cards in there and I wanted to at least LOOK at them. I found a couple of them and then found a third I didn’t expect.

      In the end, I deleted about 400 emails and hope I didn’t offend anyone. I was never going to have the time to actually look at anything in that heap of stuff.

      As the weather warms up and maybe finally THIS year we get to go out and do stuff, it gets more and more difficult to spend half a day sifting through email. Yesterday, we went out and too pictures then did a bit of grocery shopping. But between that and feeding birds, watering plants, posting something — and then, of course, dinner, there was no time left for anything except deleting everything and hoping it would hold steady for a day or two before building up again.

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  2. Thank you Marilyn for soldiering on and Sharing Your World. In bite sized pieces, easy to read and digest. I subscribed to the Post and became disenchanted quickly by the same phenomenon you describe. I didn’t renew and I left it behind when I moved mailboxes on line. We live in the age of Twitter (although that’s probably out of fashion now too), and it seems that unless they regurgitate the same thought fifteen or twenty times, they don’t feel noticed (I guess). I watched a film last night that featured a blogger (and damned poorly IMHO as to the term ‘blogger’ but I digress)..anyway she was more a V-logger than any blogger and she lived for the sound bite, the selfie and was totally absorbed in how her opinion was the ultimate one. I know it was fiction but she supposedly had become ‘world famous’ for her vlog and had something like a billion followers. It’s believable on one hand because as said apparently that generation has the attention span of a flea on crack…i.e. they don’t have one and must be constantly amused like a toddler. That’s highly frightening as they are now of ages to lead things, like countries, yet they can’t keep one thought in their head long enough to form an opinion IMO. Sorry about the soapbox, but it irks me that a formerly reputable new source like the Washington Post should stoop to such lows. All your answers were fabulous, and I hope you get another opportunity to fly. Yes, wives are taken for granted, especially in cultures like the Jewish one (from what I’ve read and seen) and the LDS one, where young girls and women are groomed almost for the ‘most important job they’ll ever have’ – serving their husbands and anyone with a “Y” chromosome who asks. Have a great week and good luck with that email business. It’s daunting!

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    • The problem with the Post is that when they are good, they are VERY good — but you have to find the good stuff between the endless rehashes of the same material — over, and over, and over. It is making my email unusable. I know, for example, that on Monday you should be in my email — but I never find you. I usually find Fandango and use his link to get to you. I don’t think I’ve found ANY of your original posts in months. Sometimes you show up, the rest of the time? Either it’s a problem with gmail/google, WordPress, or you are buried somewhere in that huge heap of news blurbs. Or for that matter — all three including the instability of our wi-fi carrier.

      Computers are great — when they work.

      All these movies and TV series about bloggers are absurd. For every single blogger who actually makes a living from a blog, there of tens of thousands who write or show their photos or artwork or music for free. I actually don’t know ANYONE who makes money on their blog. Do you? I bet you don’t. I always yell at the TV when these stories come up. They really annoy the crap out of me.

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  3. I’m so glad I didn’t subscribe to Washington Post. The emails from New York Times is enough, but you now have me interested in Smithsonian. May have to check that out.

    I’m a fan of humor and music variety. We’re the same when it comes to classic rock, but I like to mix it up as well with hard rock, blues, pop, Christian and Christmas music. I love Adele as much as I love AC/DC!

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    • Really, I like almost everything except jazz (which I don’t hate, but it just doesn’t do anything for me) and opera. Actually, I love operetta and especially Gilbert & Sullivan AND I know all the words to a couple them — Pinafore and Pirates.

      I think if you studied music, you can’t help loving religious music because most of western music is based on it. I think for a while my mother thought I had converted secretly because I walked around singing masses (Bach wrote a few really GREAT ones) and of course, Handel (all city chorus, look for the kid with the glasses in the alto section). My problem with opera are sopranos. There are a few great ones, but so many of them sound to me like nails on a blackboard. They don’t sing. They shriek. Maybe they should reconsider their range because an opera singer pushing up just those few notes is unbearable.

      The Post was better a couple of years ago. They’ve gotten much more aggressive and I’ve gone into retreat.

      Smithsonian has all kinds of interesting stuff in it. Lots of archeology, too, of which I’m particularly fond. Combined with National Geographic and most of the things that really interest me are in there. I might add a history magazine the next time one comes up with a special deal.

      But you know, even without a special deal, both NG and Smithsonian are not terribly expensive and you get a lot of value for the money. We used to subscribe to The New Yorker which is still a really great publication, but once they went back to full price, it was not affordable. Which is why we DON’T subscribe to the Boston Globe — the one newspaper that has never reduced its prices, not even for a short run.

      I like some hard rock, but I’m not sure the difference between Credence, Doors, Stone, and something harder. How hard does it have to be to be hard? Kind of a blurry line for me. Mostly, I like everything modern with a melody and a rhythm that makes your toes move, so I suppose you’d have to add country and western to that heap of music.

      Have you seen “A Mighty Wind”? If you haven’t, it’s funny and a rather loving story about old folk music lovers getting back together for one final concert. Great movie and very singable.

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      • I have not seen “A Mighty Wind,” but I’ll check into it. I’m always looking for good TV and movies.

        I consider bands like AC/DC, Judas Priest and Metallica as hard rock. As with country and pop music, I like some of it but not all of it.

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        • I don’t think I listened to much of it so I’m without an opinion. By the time that music was popular, I was a mother with a full time job and a full time house to keep. I think I probably missed it. Anything that happened in the 80s I missed because I was out of the country. I think I missed the 80s entirely and a good chunk of the 70s. I hope I didn’t miss anything I’ll regret 😀

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  4. This is so true that men take wives for granted. Better break this habit while you can.

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    • I think, after 32 years of marriage, it’s a little bit late for me. But for the younger ones? It’s not a bad idea to set up a more equitable system because after all these years, the man STILL won’t cook a simple meal although he will, if begged, open a can of soup and make a sandwich.

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