It’s hard to be casual and cute right now. I don’t feel casual and my sense of humor has taken a serious nose-dive. The world I thought I knew has come unraveled and I’m not optimistic that I will live to see it back to whatever I thought was normal. I’m not even sure it can go back there. Typically when nations undergo this kind of moral and civil earthquake through which we are going, the nation may turn back, but not to the space from which they came. Something else, maybe.
Out of this mess perhaps something better will emerge. I’m not feeling optimistic right now.
The good news? The heat broke and it’s raining. The flowers are dancing in their beds and boxes. The birds are chirping with delight. Even the trees look happy.
I’m grateful to the rain, but so upset by pretty much every other thing I can think of. Sorry about that. I’m trying to find a calm place in my head where I can rest in peace for a while.
What’s your favorite way to spend a day off? If you’re retired, what’s something you now include in your schedule that you dreamed about while employed?
We are retired so every day is a day off. Actually, retirement itself was a dream. Even though we don’t have enough money and considering the state of the world economy seems to be shrinking daily, I can’t begin to say how much I love not working, not commuting, not working to a deadline. Yes, we still have dates to meet, bills (oh so many) to pay and all that stuff. But whatever we do, it’s not every day. It isn’t mandatory. I can cancel an appointment, even an important one. We don’t have to go to a party that’s too far or full of people we don’t know.
Retirement was a dream. Now it’s reality. Given life as it is, I’m not sure how I ever found the time to work.
Now that COVID isn’t so strictly monitored and folks can go out and about again, are you into after-work happy hours?
I was never into after work happy hours, not when I was working and never since. I’m pretty much a homebody.
What physical traits do you share with your relatives?
Gray hair at an early age. We have a family gene for early graying. My mother was gray before she was 30 and I was halfway there at the same age. I have my father’s eyes, but I look so much like my mother it’s sometimes rather startling.
I’m not sure what my nose would look like had it not been broken twice many years ago. It’s amazing how much force a toddler’s foot in a shoe can have when it whacks you on the bridge of your nose. Twice.
How long does it take you to decide if you like someone or not?
I have an initial reaction and then I back off. I need to see if I will like them better or less if I spend time with them. Some people I liked I eventually learned to dislike. Intensely dislike. Anyone who has ever been divorced or had an abusive parent or partner knows what I mean. Not everyone flies their full colors on first meeting.
Feel free to share some wisdom you live by.
Everyone has the right to live as they choose — including me. Live by your own choices, but don’t impose those choices on me. I don’t take orders well.