Garry and I went through this process a decade ago when we were thinking about selling and moving. We looked all over the map — not then considering other countries — and realized despite winter, we’d rather live here than anywhere else. I’d absolutely want to live in a house designed to deal with our age and infirmities. A flat house with a better kitchen, many more and better-designed closets. People to help us take care of cleaning and maybe at least some of the cooking.
The weather in New England is always an issue, which is why New Englanders talk about the weather all the time. It’s too hot, too cold, not cold enough. Too much rain Then drought. Too much snow, or where is the snow? Even before climate change, we had rapidly-changing, unpredictable weather.
And yet, here we are. As a mixed-race and mixed-religion couple, there are a lot of places we would never want to live. These days, even more so. California, once a desirable choice is a bit of a mess with fires, drought, earthquakes, mudslides. Hawaii is beautiful but I like four seasons. I’ve lived in a two season country. I never thought I would miss winter, but I did. I especially missed Autumn and living in Jerusalem — solidly inland — I missed the smell of saltwater. I missed the awakening of spring. And I missed people. Friends and family. English as a native language.
If it were possible to live outside the U.S.? Garry strongly favors the south of France. He loved it and has always wanted to go back at least once more. I don’t know if he’d really want to live there. I might favor going there for a couple of months, but I’d want to be home when spring is in the air.
I lived abroad for nearly a decade and I enjoyed being in a different world. But when I talked about home, I knew home was here.
I’m very unhappy with the U.S. now for all the reasons I’ve talked about for the past five years. Yet, this is home. I was born and grew up here. I love the east coast, the smell of the ocean and the long sandy beaches that face the dawn.
If we were younger, we might be more adventurous. Now? I’d like a newer home designed up to deal with seniors who have issues. I’d love to get help to do things we can’t easily do ourselves.
I have no idea if America will pull out of its slump and become the nation I know it should be. I hope it finds a way. I also know if we crash, we won’t crash alone. The world is teetering on a ledge. It’s a balance point. We can easily fall one way or the other. I hope we find a way to stabilize, to do what we need to do to make our world right.