Fandango’s Provocative Question #202

Now here’s a really good question:

Have you ever been sure that you knew something to be true only to find out that what you thought you knew to be true was, in fact, not true? If so, what was it and how did you find out that it wasn’t true?

In my adult life, that hasn’t happened with information — but that supposes you aren’t going to count all the liars I believed until I discovered (always too late) they were lying. The scam artists, on and offline, who betrayed my childish (stupid) trust. The people who stole from me and are apparently pleased with themselves. I couldn’t live with the shame, but they embrace it.

By Mickey Paraskevas

I forgave them all, or more to the point, I recognized that dealing with them was beyond me, so I handed them off to that higher power (whatever it may be) and finally found peace.

Knowledge, though? Information? I’m a determined researcher, I check out everything before I believe it. I have met too many liars, backbiters and haters to be willing to believe what someone says without checking to see whether or not it’s true.

What a pity you can’t do meaningful research on people.

With people, you have to go with “impressions” and “feelings.” This has not turned out to be in any sense an accurate assessment.

I have an unfortunate tendency to believe people. I give people the benefit of a doubt and assume they are honest or trying to be. I have been greatly pummeled by many of them who were fakes, frauds, scammers, and outright thieves. If only you could look them up on Google and discover who they really are before they took you to the cleaners. Wouldn’t that be swell?

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29 replies

  1. Yeah I’ve kicked myself more than once in the past for falling for a good story only to find out it was wrong. Now I tend to suss everything out, particularly these days as the propoganda is overwhelming on so many things as narratives are pushed. I find that when only one side of a story is allowed then you have to ask why that is. Especially in recent years.


  2. I know exactly what you mean. One of the reasons I married right away after my first husband passed was exactly that. I am too trusting. Vince helps me with that because he trusts almost no one. If he trusts them, then I get a little worried! LOL His sister, on the other hand, is an easy scam victim. She got scammed out of $1800 once, 300 at a time until she mentioned it to her counselor. She didn’t tell us until she called from the police station.


    • I’ve been ripped off for more than that, but only once. And it was my own bank. Now, I don’t trust anyone who collects money from me. I save receipts on my computer, in special pouches. I don’t trust anyone.

      But people are something else. I figure anyone who is my friend or who acts like my friends would behave like a friend. That has not turned out to be true. There are real friends — and then, there are all the rest. Garry is at least as bad as me, maybe worse. Owen trusts no one at work, but everyone else. We are all hopeless.

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      • And yet we make it through life! I listened to part of the first podcast your husband is collaborating on. I didn’t have time to finish the entire podcast, but I think it’s a great idea. 🙂


        • Well, they recorded the second one yesterday. They are just a half hour each, so I think I may convince them to record two at a time. That way if someone isn’t feeling well or is out of town or has company, we won’t instantly run out of programs. The guys are having fun and that’s important. Garry needed something to involve him.

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  3. That would be swell. I too, give people the benefit of the doubt and it has caused me harm many times. You’d think I would stop but I suppose it is just who I am. Fortunately, however I have gotten slightly less naive in my 30+ years.


  4. Going on dating sites for a few years really opened my eyes to the sheer number of liars and scammers who lurk everywhere!


  5. It’s hard to judge people accurately, specially that first time.


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