Share Your World 27th March

Much to my chagrin, we are “rebounding” on COVID. Not seriously, but enough so I feel like the progress I made is disappearing.

I’m not desperately ill, but I’m not where I hoped I’d be by now. There’s nothing more to do. Inhalers and patience seems to be the order of the day.

Here are this week’s random questions

Do you have a lot of friends or do you know a lot of people ?

I used to know a lot of people and I had a lot of friends. Then I moved overseas, where I also knew a lot of people and had a fair number of friends. When I came back to the States almost a decade later, many of the people I had known had moved to other parts of the country. Then I moved to New England and married Garry. I never quite rebuilt the “friend network.” I’m not sure I entirely wanted to reconnect with everyone.

I had changed a lot since I was in my 20s when had a big social circle and a very active social life. I didn’t want company all the time. I certainly didn’t want people dropping in without warning. Fortunately, everyone else had grown up so they were far less likely to be dropping over.

I met people at work and they were friends while I was working, but when I stopped working those relationships petered out. I think that happens to a lot of us. The thing we had in common was work, so when work isn’t there, there aren’t any common interests.

The friends I have now — other than online friends — are mostly the people I’ve known since college. We do have a lot in common. It’s just there aren’t nearly as many of us as there used to be.

If you are at a party and know very few of the guests, do you mingle and introduce yourself, sit on the sidelines and people watch, or discreetly leave?

I feel lucky this isn’t an issue anymore. If it’s “that kind of party,” we don’t go. Problem solved.

What is the best job you have ever had?

Working as an editor/writer for Doubleday. That was a GREAT job. The people were great, the work was fun and the pay was good. The hours were ideal. It didn’t last. Not only did I leave, but the company changed ownership. Nothing was the same after that. I don’t even think the building is still standing.

Can you swim?

I learned to swim by playing tag in a pool. It turned out to be easier to swim than to run in water. I’m not a world-class swimmer, but I can tread water for hours and do most of the basic water stuff.

I was learning to dive for a while and I liked it. You don’t even have to know how to swim well to dive. It’s a different sport. Just watch out for your teeth. I knew a lot of divers missing front teeth. When you miss a dive and go face first into the board or platform, OUCH! You need a strong sense of balance to be a good diver. If you lean back too much, you land on the small of your back. OUCH. Too far forward? Another OUCH. Belly flops from a high board aren’t cute.

Swimming in the river in Rhode Island

Worst? If you are leaping from the edge of the pool and go up without going forward, you crack your shins on the edge of the pool and lemme tellya, that really hurts. I cracked both shins. I think that was the last time I dove. It became obvious diving wasn’t going to be my sport.

These days, should I decide to swim — and as far as I’m concerned, anything colder than a shower is too cold for me — I walk carefully into the water.

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18 replies

  1. See some signs of Spring. Cautiously. Spring blizzards are not a myth here.
    Saw some Robins in the back. BUT some Robins don’t go South anymore.
    We saw some in mid Winter at a local park.

    Rose and I are gonna rent the Wayback Machine from Sherman and Peabody.
    We’re setting the dial to Normal.


  2. Hi Marilyn, sorry to hear you’re still suffering. I had several friends until I got divorced when all but one remained neutral. I moved away and when I came back 8 years later, she had changed and we had nothing in common. I’ve had no contact with her in 34 years. I know a lot of people, but have few friends. Someone we considered to be a true friend changed when his wife died (she was my best friend) and he is not the man I remember, though we still exchange Christmas cards.
    Thanks for joining in this week.


    • People change. We ALL change. I can’t blame all the change on others because much of the change is me. I’ve been through a lot of stuff and you don’t come out the same way you went in.


      • I agree. I was not the same person who returned after 8 years to my home town. After my bestie died, I was surprised her husband kept in touch and we had many years of friendship. We had been supportive when he was diagnosed with leukaemia and his treatments put him in remission. A few years ago, he changed and began to alienate all of his friends, including us. I am glad we still exchange Christmas cards and to know he is OK.


  3. I’m sorry that the Covid is lingering, Marilyn. I love learning more about you! The pictures of the swimmers absolutely made my day. I grew up on rivers (not in a Van down by the river; although I wouldn’t mind many times). I don’t like unexpected drop-ins, surface conversations, and my friend (true friends) is smaller than most would perceive. Like you, diving was not my forte. I do like swimming and it’s been years since I have. It’s freeing and good for me. I need to do it again! Here’s to “diving” into spring with better health!


    • Watching those youngsters diving into the river and swimming around was great. Almost as good as doing it myself and made me wish I’d grown up in an area with water and rivers. I think most of us are far shorter of “feet on the ground” friends than we were. For some of us, it’s age. People die, develop dementia, or move into strange little “senior condos” where there’s barely room for one person, much less friends.

      There’s nothing to be done about it. Time has it’s way with us and all the people we know. I try not to brood about it, but there are people whose lose would be unbearable. So far, at least that handful are still with us.

      When I was in my 20s, people just dropped over. I was married and we had a house, so maybe that made us the focal point for drop in visitors, but by the time I got back from Israel, I was in my 40s and I wasn’t the same me that had left years before. It’s amazing how much we change.

      I also have a lot of trouble with “casual conversation” that seems (mostly) centered on the weather or some other neutral topic in which no one has any real interest.

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  4. Sorry you’re having rebound. Hope it clears relatively soon. I also tried diving as a sport–fun, but as soon as I needed to learn an inward or reverse dive, I was done. No way I was going to dive toward the board.


    • I kept getting hurt. It became obvious that I didn’t have that ability to find my position in the air. Apparently I’d hit my limit learning to ride a bike. It WAS fun, though, for the few months is lasted. I would have liked to get better at it, but getting broken was not fun. My best sport? I was a hell of a great ping-pong player!


  5. Sorry to hear that Covid is hanging around. How is Garry? I had a cold last week and my throat was so sore that I actually did a RAT in case I had Covid again. I was concerned because we were going to a car show Sunday and Naomi planned to visit her friend in the nursing home this weekend. If I had it neither would be possible. Luckily I was negative. I think I just got the cold at the car show we went to the previous week as it was freezing there. Seems to have cleared up now.


  6. Sorry to hear you’re not making much progress, Marilyn. When we had it, I thought we were never going to get better, it seemed to last so long… Hang in there, for it does pass!


  7. Hi Marilyn, I don’t swim much either. The two pictures of the children swimming are amazing.

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    • When I was a kid, I couldn’t imagine water too cold for swimming. Now? Anything colder than body temperature is too cold for me. Also, I HATE sand and mud and strange living things underfoot. I am behaving EXACTLY like my mother!

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      • I love sand and mud and always built castles and mud shelters for my boys when they were young enough to be interested. Such fun days. I stood on a huge rain spider once with bare feet. The crunch was most disgusting.


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