Rules of criticism:
- Brutal honesty is always more brutal than honest. It is never well-meant. There are plenty of ways to be honest that are not brutal.
- Honesty lacking kindness is merely spite and malice flying under false colors.
- When criticism is given without affection or humor, its aim is not to inform, but to wound.
- Be wary of anyone who starts the sentence with “Trust me.” To me, that screams “The guy is a liar.”
Anyone can tell the real intentions of someone who is “only telling the truth for your own good.” Mostly, it’s a lie with a wash of “honest” on it.
Usually, it’s an outright lie. I wish people who have a bone to pick would say so and stop pretending it’s for “my own good.” It’s for their good if any “good” is involved. Personally, I doubt it.
Some people really can’t handle criticism, no matter how gently given — or even a suggestion there might be a better way to do something. For these people, quit trying. Sometimes, they have good reasons for reacting that way, but you’re in a lose-lose position. Move on. You cannot make the unreasonable see reason.
On the whole, people who constantly criticize other people enjoy it. They should shut up and look in a mirror.
So, to sum this up, are you suggesting I don’t take criticism well? Who do you think you are, anyway? I take criticism fine. You are out of line. I am the soul of restraint and patience and if you don’t agree, I’m going to shout at you until you apologize.
Now I feel better.