It has nothing to do with hooking up or any other kind of sex. It has to do with becoming the closest of friends with a complete stranger for one afternoon, then never seeing him or her again. One year, about 30 years ago, I was visiting friends in Montreal. I was poor, didn't have … Continue reading BEST FRIENDS FOR AN AFTERNOON – Marilyn Armstrong

TEA AND CEREMONY – Marilyn Armstrong

For Rashmi Kashyap - I miss you and hope you are well. I don't remember exactly when, I mentioned in a post how difficult it is to get good tea in the U.S. It isn't impossible. If you have sufficient resources, you can get anything. Ordinary folk are limited to local shops and the ubiquitous Internet. The problem is not … Continue reading TEA AND CEREMONY – Marilyn Armstrong



Yesterday, in the midst of the busyness that seems to be an inevitable part of this season, I noticed that Rashmi of Soul & Spirit, hadn’t been by in a long time. I’m used to her going silent for a week or a few days at a time. Her life, with a military husband, has her on the road and moving around more than most people. But this was a particularly long silence … 12 days of silence.

So … recognizing my tendency to lose track of time and become completely absorbed in my moment — forgetting that other people are entwined in their own problems — I wrote her to find out what was going on and if she was okay.

She is okay, if by okay you mean alive. Not okay, because the area in which she is currently residing has been hit by epic floods, the worse in living memory. There has been much loss of life. Many people are homeless, so that even those who have survived have lost everything.

You can find out a lot about it by Googling “Chennai floods 2015.” It has been in the news in the U.S. too, but speaking of self-involvement, it hasn’t gotten much play in the press. Here’s the articles from Wikipedia and there is much more online.

This note from Rashmi gives a more personal picture.

“In our part of world Chennai floods have created havoc. Two of my friends have lost everything in the devastation. Their house was submerged, dogs drowned. Somehow, they were evacuated in time, save by a timely alert. A colonel & his wife could not be saved. We knew the couple and the news came as a shock. Army camp was badly affected. One of my friend’s son has not yet been traced; he was in one of Chennai’s hostels. We have an intuition they are going to receive only his body. Things are worst for the victims and there are so many. I’m feeling so sad. I’ll be back in a day or two.

Thank you so much for the concern. It reminded me I haven’t talked to my fellow bloggers for more than 10 days. Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts. It means a lot, I swear.

Regards, Rashmi.”

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On 2nd of Dec. India woke up to watch dejected,  traumatized, hopeless faces of innocent people of Chennai. 

Everything was absolutely fine till 30th Nov. I posted my last post on WordPress and went to school in the morning, came back, felt happy to see the pictures of the couple, both senior army officers and dear friends, enjoying in Mumbai. They were to leave Chennai and now posted to Mumbai. All their stuff was packed and they had gone to Mumbai to do initial formalities before shifting finally.

God had different plans for them. On the very first day of Dec. Chennai recorded 374mm rainfall and it was supposed to continue for the week, declared weather forecast.

The scene was changed by the evening and Chennai was set to face its worst floods in 100 years.

As  I watched the mind numbing pictures on TV and scary scale of disaster…

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