I hear a lot of complaining about aging. Some of it is coming from me, so I admit in advance, I sometimes forget to be grateful I’m alive. Getting old ain’t fun, but not getting old is less fun.
Age brings financial limitations, aches, pains, and indigestion. On the plus side, it brings an end to commuting, doing whatever your boss tells you because you need the paycheck, and never having time for yourself. Being alive offers significant advantages over being dead. Which, to the best of my knowledge, is the only alternative to growing old.
I think we are most afraid of age when we aren’t old yet, but see it coming. Most of the bewailing and bewhining about getting old doesn’t come from old people. It comes from middle-aged folks who feel they are quite old enough, thank you, and could we please just stop this aging nonsense? Can’t things stay put?
Not really.
The good news is the fear of getting old is much worse than being old. When you get to whatever age you have defined as officially “old,” probably when you retire or sign up for whatever your country gives to those who no longer work, old turns out to be life, minus going to work.
Just a continuation of life. There’s no sign saying “WELCOME TO OLD, A REALLY BIG TOWN.”
Many of friends and family members died younger than I am now. A lot younger. There’s little point in agonizing about what might happen. Worry doesn’t change anything, but it sure sucks the joy out of now. The worst part of all the stressing over possible future disasters is we worry about the wrong stuff. Inevitably, what actually happens isn’t what we worried about. It’s something we never expected, for which we are utterly unprepared.
Someone quotable said that in this secular age, worry has taken the place of prayer. I don’t know whether or not prayer was ever effective at preventing bad stuff from happening, but I’m sure worry isn’t.
In the long haul — if you’re lucky enough to have a long haul — there will be sufficient real problems to keep you busy. You don’t need to worry about stuff that may never happen. Figure out what to do about the crisis when and if it happens. Otherwise, enjoy what you can.
I gave up worrying sometime around the time I got the second cancer diagnosis. Clearly, the whole worry thing had failed. It was time to try a different approach.
I recommend living in the moment. Try it. You’ll see.
I don’t mind getting old. I resent being sick and hate being poor. On the positive side, I’m alive to complain about it. A lot of folks I used to know cannot say the same. They can’t say anything. That’s the down side of being dead.
Getting old, with all its hazards, will always beat getting dead.
Categories: Getting old, Humor, Life, Personal
Great article! It used to be tough reaching age milestones. Now, I just say “Screw it!” I’m trying to enjoy each day as it comes. As REO Speedwagon says: “Live every moment / love every day / ’cause before you know it your precious time slips away”
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Hard to argue with that. At any age!
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There’s also a freedom, a “screw the neighbors” feel to aging. We can say more (isn’t she peppery!), get away with more– wear pretty much what we want even if it is that ratty old yellow sweater, I am not longer ‘afraid’ of doctors, cops, salesgirls or lawyers. Im usually older than any of them, and while I show respect, Im not shy of them any longer. And when you DO do something usually reserved (at least in other people’s eyes) for younger people, it’s extra points in the cool department.
I wouldnt go back to 60 even for serious money.
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I don’t know what I would do if I could be younger. But since it isn’t a choice and I am what I am, I enjoy any advantage age grants. For me, that I really don’t care what someone thinks of me is the big one. And, as you say, not being afraid of “important” (read: self-important) people.
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I always say we are one day closer to death every day.
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Rather a dour way to look at it, don’t you think?
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True, but true.
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I’m with you, Marilyn! Loved the post… and glad to announce I’m happy to be “Better than Dead”! 🙂
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I’m with YOU.
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I can take it in my stride, not really a big choice. Things happen that you do not expect, but I think the thing that bothers most of all is “What comes next?”. there is no next. You have grown up, done all the things you were supposed to, perhaps worked and then come the moment when you are a senior citizen. And now – nothing really is there so let’s write a blog or knit or read a book or ….. I don’t know, but that’s that I suppose.
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Oh, I agree. And I don’t think it’s such a bad deal. We did a lot of stuff. We lived. We traveled. We raised families. We worked. Now, finally, we retired. Aside from wishing my body would behave better, life is — for the most part — pretty good. Quiet, but it can be and has been a lot worse! I sure wouldn’t want to be a crazy kid again, that is for sure 🙂
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A lot of stuff recently about being old. Includes piece I wrote — laughing at myself — for being “Just fine” after my last medical checkup. Talking about being old can be like chatting about the current Red Sox pitching staff. It is what it is. How about this? It’s a wonderful spring day out there today, sunny and warm. After our winter of discontent, life is good!!
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Works for me! The rest of the comments and email (sorry friends) will have to away our return later. Please, sun, stay OUT where we can see you!!!
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And the longer you stay alive, the better the chance of being around when they finally invent that fountain of youth….
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I’m sure if they find the fountain, it will NOT be covered by Medicare. Only the super rich and members of Congress will be able to drink of it. Because this is America, land of the free and the home of the copay.
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LOL… you are right.
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I enjoy aging, don’t fight it but like you, don’t care about the side effects like pain and restrictions. I think every decade of our lives has something to offer, it might not always be what we expected…but there is always something new to discover. You are right, it’s better than the alternative.
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I would certainly not want to be 25 and full of angst again. That WAS awful.
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The german word “Angst”? Like in being afraid? I can imagine.
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Angst is one of the words English has adopted because it is fear, but it’s also anxiety. And worry. A great word and very descriptive!
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I could write a book about that “Angst” had my fair share of it. Sorry you had too.
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It’s part of life and definitely part of growing up.
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Bravo, Marilyn! Aging isn’t fun but it beats the alternative, as you say. I’m curious as to what is going to happen next.
Leslie
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Aging isn’t fun, but working was less fun and I don’t have to do that anymore. So I figure I’ve already won the biggest prize: freedom from bosses.
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Hay, there is a lot to be said for that. I think we’ve all come out winners at this stage of things.
Leslie
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I agree. Too many people are busy counting their problems and resenting the limitations to notice the freedom. And that freedom to me is a very BIG deal.
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It’s a very big deal.
Leslie
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The biggest.
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I try not to look too far into the future. Maybe that’s why I teach about the past.
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I always think of time travel as a way to go back. I can’t imagine wanting to look at the future. That really IS scary. In all my favorite Time Travel books, historians are the heroes who travel back to see what really happened. Maybe you’ll get your chance!
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As the saying goes, getting older may be hard, but it’s better than the alternative! And as for worrying they say it works. About 90% of the things we worry about never happen!
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So you’re encouraging worry? 🙂 In my unofficial trials, I have found the 99.44% of randomly asked people on the street agree with Alfred E. Newman: “What? Me worry?”
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As a worrier myself I try to take the advice that most things I worry about never happen. Sadly I’m not very good at it and tend to worry away.
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I work very hard at focusing my attention elsewhere. Blogging helps a LOT. Otherwise I brood. And obsess. Which drives me and everyone near me NUTS.
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Being old has its downside, but you’re far more philosophical as get older – as you’ve just proved. I wouldn’t be young again for quids. It’s so PAINFUL!
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Being younger was easier physically, but everything else sucked.
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Great post. Why waste our time being worried, when we can choose to stay happy 😉
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If not happy, at least not hysterical with anxiety and fear. If worrying actually made bad stuff not happen, nothing bad would ever happen to anyone.
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So true!!
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Thanks! Well, I know that if you are a believer in heaven, the afterlife is a comfort, but I think we ought to enjoy this life while we have it. Death is 100% for everyone, the ultimate equal opportunity employer 🙂
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life is a game and no one gets out of it alive!
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The ultimate truth!
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I understand your wisdom. But being dead is definitely not worse, if one is cognizant of the Other Side. Have a great day!
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My theory is simple. We will all get to the other side. No need to hurry.
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