ARE YOU A RACIST?

I had a major battle on Amazon about a book I said was racist. Many people said, “No, it isn’t. The author is an avowed Boston liberal.”

I’m sure he Is and no doubt believes this is enough to officially make him not a racist. Except he wrote like a racist. Every time he mentioned someone of color, he referred to his or her color.

Tears never ran down their cheeks. The tears ran down their black cheeks. They didn’t have hands. They had brown hands or black hands. Not once were the Natives of the region ever mentioned a person or child without in indicating their race. Their name might be forgotten, but never their race.

Passive racism? What does that mean? After all, people who feel that way don’t attend racist rallies or carry fascist flags. But these are the friends who would never visit us when we lived in a Black neighborhood because they were sure they would be mugged or shot by our neighbors — most of whom were police officers, one of whom was a guard at a city prison, and two of whom were Sheriffs.

We had less crime there than we had while living on Beacon Hill. Far less. No one broke into our house or vandalized our cars and no one stole our cars, both of which were stolen while we lived on Beacon Hill or tried to swipe things from our deliverers which was a constant problem on “the Hill.” Racism isn’t only the white-hooded, marching and shouting kind. It’s an attitude. A belief that says that dark-skinned people are more violent, predatory, and criminal. Different in bad ways. Dangerous. Gun-toting. This kind of “passive ‘I’m really a liberal’ ” racism is particularly easy to pretend doesn’t exist.

Without significant attitudinal changes, it will never go away.

Racism runs deep in this country. North, south, east and west and without regard for ethnicity or political agenda. You’ll find it in your household, your neighborhood, your church. Your “liberal friends” who won’t go anywhere that isn’t known as a “safe, white” neighborhood. These are the people who prevent non-white people from being promoted at work without actually saying anything. They keep them from getting scholarships, from getting into management positions. It’s subtle, but it’s there.

The ones who are constantly complain that “equal opportunity” is ruining their work because dark-skinned people or immigrants (or both) are stealing their jobs. The same morons who never consider they don’t get promoted because they don’t work hard enough and aren’t very good at what they do. The same people who bitch that “political correctness” is keeping them from calling people “n#gg#rs.” Who would use that word — with or without political correctness — as a measure of anything except the bottom of the barrel of racism and bigotry?

These folks are cops and judges. Office managers. Parole officers. Social workers. Teachers. They are your drinking buddies, the barkeeper, and the kids your kids play with. The first step to making this problem begin to go away is to figure out where you stand on this. Are you a racist? A nice, quiet, suburban racist?



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  1. I’m not racist if I don’t burn crosses or use the N-word, am I? That seems to be the attitude of a lot of people I know, it is an all or nothing attitude. And that idea is usually followed by “I’m not racist, but…”
    I’ve tried my entire life to purge the racism that American culture has fed me, but occasionally I still find myself saying or thinking something that, if not truly hateful, does tend towards the racist side. And I think to myself, if I do it and I am trying to be as un/anti-racist as possible, how bad are people who would never believe anything they do, say or think could be considered racist? Reading Facebook, pretty bad… Bu you could never convince them that they are.

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    • That was exactly my point. When we lived in Roxbury, NONE of our suburban white friends would visit us. The newspapers would run lurid op ed articles about packs of murderous, armed youths roaming the neighborhoods look for prey — but it wasn’t true. It never happened. Oh, but the seeds they planted with those articles did a lot of damage. We lived there for 10 years an if it hadn’t been for the big dig making Boston a driving and parking nightmare, we’d still be living there. That triplex condo was the best designed house in which I’d ever lived. Of course I was also worried that as I got older, those stairs would get harder and harder to climb — but still, it was roomy, had more bathrooms than we needed, closets EVERYWHERE and a huge kitchen. What it didn’t have were enough parking places for guests — and somewhere for the dogs to run. And then there was that dig.

      But did I ever feel threatened? No. Were our cars vandalized? No. I remember when there were riots in L.A. and I was the only white person in the post office, I hoped no one would decide I was the enemy. They didn’t. Other than complaining about the length of the lines — the PO was never properly staffed — no one said anything except “Hi, how’re you doing?” Roxbury isn’t a big neighborhood and we all more or less knew each other. And pretty much all the white people living in Roxbury were married to darker skinned people.

      EVEN so, there’s so much subconscious racism that sometimes our own thoughts can be shocking. Garry once said I was the only white person he knew who didn’t need a course in race relations. I took it as a compliment. I’m not sure if it’s true, but he meant it and I appreciate it.

      This kind of passive suburban racism gets passed off as “I’m afraid of them because they hate me” when we actually have no idea HOW “they” feel about us. I believe we figure they SHOULD hate us because if we were them? We would hate us.

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      • Garry, here, writing on Marilyn’s computer.

        It hasn’t gotten any better with the passage of time, including a two term President whose skin color we hoped would be the beginning of real change. After all the racially tinged stories I did in a lifetime as a reporter, it’s still the same.

        I still involuntarily twitch when people stare at me. Recognition from my TV news career or anxiety over the color of my skin?

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  2. I worked for many years in downtown Oakland California and yes, did I avoid groups of young black men hanging out in front of the Bart station after dark. It’s more the hate I’m afraid of than the color of their skin.

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    • The problem is that so much of that this never actually happened. Sure some of them hate us but most don’t. The wild rampaging murderous youths strolling “ghetto” neighborhoods ready to shoot any white person they might encounter? It never happened. It was something you read in racist news and later online. If those kids shot anyone, it was each other — and it was never a wild rampage. I lived in Roxbury — the blackest neighborhood in Boston — for 10 years and it NEVER HAPPENED. Not once. That white people were terrified it would happen is less a statement about hate from Black people and more about the guilt of white people. We know what we did. We’re afraid they hate us because if we were them, WE would hate us.

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      • It has happened to me – they didn’t hurt me – they just wanted to vent. I don’t blame them. I worked with foster kids who were black and I know they faced a lot racism.

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        • Lots of racism both subtle and blatant is very much part of life in 2023. Garry STILL bumps into it. And it’s not subtle. The last time it happened it was in a particularly liberal suburb not far from here. When I mentioned it to the woman we were visiting, she said “That doesn’t happen here in Grafton.”

          But you see, it does. Garry got a free pass sometimes because he was on TV, but sometimes being on TV made it worse. One way or the other there’s no such thing as “that never happens here.” It happens everywhere. To anyone who isn’t “just like all the other people who live there.”

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  3. Racism is more insidious today than it was decades ago. Some people in positions of power hold back people of color, but they don’t talk about it as openly as they might have at one time. They just do it. On the other hand, the orange guy let people know it was OK to be a racist and we took a huge step backward during his time.

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    • Yeah. He pulled down the politeness and just left raw hatred in its place. My mother always worried that one day, they’d remember to hate Jews again — and sure enough, they do. They never stopped. They just shut up about it.

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      • Last year I attended a discussion at the Illinois Holocaust Museum after the first episode of “The US and the Holocaust,” a three part PBS series. It was moderated by a local PBS news reporter along with two prominent speakers from the program. It was an interesting discussion of immigration and prejudice, then and now. A friend of mine secured tickets. The thoughts on the present day were interesting, to say the least. I took some pictures and intended to write about it, but found no time back then.

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        • My mother was right most of the time. I guess it was the years and times through which she lived — WWI, the first COVID plague, Depression, recovery, WWII, Korea, Vietnam. She grew up in a horse and buggy world and died amidst computers. Nothing surprised her. I really did think she was overly cynical, but she was right. I was naive.

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  4. Really interesting and. important piece, Marilyn. I have always thought of myself as “liberal”, but I grew up in what was then a completely white suburb of Boston. I did grow up afraid of sections of the city. And I have found myself consciously and deliberately leaving race out of my descriptions of people. It isn’t easy, but it’s vital. I try NOT to say, “I met the nicest Black woman at the library.” Or, “That Chinese woman at the pharmacy was the one who figure out the problem.”
    Racism is part of my DNA. It’s my duty and obligation to stop acting on it and start acknowledging it.

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    • I think acknowledging that we all carry some amount of prejudice is a HUGE first step. Every ethnic group has its own set of prejudices, frequently about their own people. Before you can deal with it, you have to at least own up to it. When I asked people why they were afraid of our neighborhood, they’d always cite things like “they hate us” and “the Herald said…” But behind that, there were no facts. Nothing happened to justify the belief that all Black people hate all White people. Or even dislike them. Some don’t like us. Some just don’t like ME. I don’t think we’ll ever live in a world where we all love each other. It makes nice song lyrics, but it ain’t true.

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  5. This is why Marx was against Liberalism. He basically said that Liberals were the same Cops that Conservative Capitalists are. Just without the uniform. And the more I read Marx and I look at our society, the more I realize he was right.

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    • I really should reread Marx again. It has been probably 50 years since I read him and it’s definitely time for a rerun.

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      • Yeah, people looking for “new ideologies” or “new ways of thinking” should really look up the guy from 100’s of years ago who pretty much predicted almost everything going on now.

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        • No one reads history and any book that isn’t “new” doesn’t get read. And as far as I can see, most people DON’T read anything longer than a tweet and many don’t make it to a second sentence. I can’t tell you how many times people make comments based on the headline and it’s obvious they never read EVEN the first paragraph.

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  6. I think this author is a racist. And anyone who looks at a person’s skin time first and then at Who they are is a racist too.

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