Once upon a time, I had a job in Connecticut. My daily commute was 140 miles — each way. I only worked three days at the office and worked the other two at home. Even so, after a few months, I was exhausted. I could not continue.

I quit and found another job that didn’t require as much commuting. It didn’t pay nearly as well, but it wasn’t going to kill me. Two-hundred and eighty miles of driving three days a week was nuts. Not only did it wear me down, but it also wore out my car.

I never thought of giving up as “throwing in the towel.” I was not giving up. More like I was acknowledging I shouldn’t have taken the job (or married that guy) in the first place. What in the world made me believe I could spend five or six hours a day in the car and also spend 8 to 10 hours at work?

Whenever I’ve given something up whether it was a job, a relationship, a recipe, or whatever? The problem was never being defeated by a foe. The enemy was always me. I made a stupid choice. I should never have started whatever it was in the first place. And usually, I’d known it from the beginning but for some reason, I couldn’t say no.

Ultimately, I knew I’d screwed up and changed course. If you look at this kind of thing as a defeat, you will have a lot of trouble coping when the road gets bumpy. Know when to hold ’em. Know when to fold ’em.

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5 replies

  1. It’s the ability to admit you made a mistake and then take steps to correct it that tells about a person’s character IMHO. Many of us are too stubborn to admit we messed up, and therefore we endure a lot of bad ‘road’ before we’re finally done.


    • Never admitting you made a mistake must be a tough gig. I couldn’t live like that. I’m an instant apologizer. I’ve been known to apologize to furniture if I bump into it. We may — those of us with manners — be even worse than Canadians. I apologize when given compliments. It’s a compulsion.


  2. Know when to walk away and know when to run.



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